in short: ended marriage 15 years due to affair. Lockdown together with 2 kids 10 /13z super bitter soon to be x.
So going through a horrendous divorce. X wants everything. Her sense of entitlement is nuts. 90% of house as starter. Also wants Thousands in maintenance per month school fee’s all her bills paying the list goes on. She earns big money from her job as well 70k plus. She does not like the words NO or Fair and is now pushing for court hearings for anything she can find at huge costs. I got the kids agreed early 50/50 thank god.
she just seems to still do what she wants and open up more matters and i just feel like a bottle in an ocean and no one can stop her!
i am totally up for a fair split and to do the right thing but i am being bullied by a person who wants it all and her pursuit of what she believes she should have is nuts.
she tried to have me kicked out for doing nothing…court said not even considering it. The allegations against me are nuts and fabricated. She records me in the house 24/7, went to police about coerced control, thrown out by police…it goes on and on.
this is personal and i need help to stop all this nonsense.
i have 2 previous child carers willing to go to court against her…they see how she is.
my lawyers and courts are ££££ and i seemingly cannot get off the lunatic bus…help, thoughts thank you 🙏🏻
Hi. This sounds like an awful situation. It also sounds like it’s nothing to do with what’s best for the children but instead just making life difficult for you. I’ve never gone through a divorce so don’t know of the legal side of that but her wanting 90% seems unreasonable. If you have shared care of the children 50/50 then you don’t need to pay maintenance. Hope you get things worked out.
Thanks for posting on our forum. This sounds like a difficult situation. An agency that may be able to help give you some advice and information is the Family Law Panel. Here are their details:
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I think the first thing to do (if you haven’t already) is formalise your child care agreement in the form of a consent order or Child arrangement order so this can not be changed on a whim. That way, with you both providing 50% care, neither party will be liable for child maintenance.
If you’re both working and have consistently, and she hasn’t been disadvantaged financially by having or providing care for the children, the earnings are similar etc then you wouldn’t be liable for spousal maintenance either.