my wife has spent our entire married avoiding getting a job, we are in the process of separating and I am worried that I will be forced to shoulder the burden of supporting her for the rest of her life (its the main reason for the marriage failing) I want to have the children 50per cent of the time but she is already starting to come up with reasons that cant happen and I feel these are purely made up to give her an excuse not to get a job and pay her way.
has anybody else been in this situation ? and before anybody has a go I am not trying to avoid supporting my children, I will quite happily and willingly support them in all their needs and wants but I don’t feel it is right that I have to work 50 hours a week while she sits at home and does nothing for the 3 days a week she doesn’t have the kids.
I think you may find that if you have a contract/court order stating 50/50 care of the kids,you may not have to pay the full amount to your ex. The main purpose of child care money is to get payments from fathers who do not wish to have an input at all.(something alot of people forget). The system is far from perfect for fathers who wish to pay but also have money left over to spend on their kids by taking them out or on holiday.