Hello everyone. I would really appreciate your thoughts on my situation please.
My ex husband was made redundant in 2016. We have 3 children. He asked me if he could reduce his maintenance payments to help him during that time. I agreed to him doing this and so for 5 months my maintenance was cut by more than half. Then he got work and increased it to the agreed amount again.
My question is this, should he have paid me back the money that he cut when he got his job?
He was in a very well paid job and the amount that he had cut from the maintenance was substantial.
Ordinarily,I know that he would have to apply to the court for a maintenance reduction,but this was an amicable and informal agreement. We didn’t sign anything and I didn’t make him agree to pay me back once he was working.
I have asked him for the money back now.He isn’t working, but is looking for work.
He is very good with money and always has savings squirrelled away. I am not expecting the money in a lump sum, due to his unemployment, but I would like him to commit to paying it back to me.
As it was an informal agreement and he is and was out of work at the time I’m not sure you’d be able to do anything, but maybe try the gingerbread helpline, they should be able to direct you where to go for advice. If it was an ordered payment it would reduce with redundancy though.
My husband was made redundant and I have asked the child maintenance agency about ongoing payments – they said there’s nothing they can do if he’s unemployed/newly self employed. There is also a possibility of voluntary maintenance being withdrawn if questioned. I financially supported my husband for most of our marriage, but when roles reversed it’s been a different story, he now has money but his view is what’s in the past is the past, this is now, so much for marriage