Long story short .seperated for 5yrs and ex wife moves 300miles away taking my youngest 11yr old with her and my 15 yr old wanted to stay with me . This is all a week a week before lockdown .
so tonight my son has approached me saying his friend gave him a joint that he smoked a couple of days ago . While I was at work ( I’m a key worker )
now it’s the first time he has come and been open and honest with me . .
so I just don’t know how to react . If I shout and punish I lose all trust .
I did stay carm and tried to explain the issues with what he has done . But not sure how to move on from there with it …
Hi. It’s a difficult situation to be in. Firstly I think it says a lot about you and the relationship between the two of you that he felt he could discuss it with you, this is really positive. Secondly, it’s something that a lot of young people try. If he’s talking to you about it he may have his own worries about it, peer pressure or health concerns. I would just discuss the facts, it’s illegal, not good for you etc. Personally I wouldn’t punish him as I don’t think it will be of benefit to either of you and he’ll just be less likely to tell you things in the future. It sounds like you’re doing a great job with him.