Hi. I am new to this forum and i have separated from my husband of 18 years of being together. I am a mum of 3 in my mid forties and feel totally lost. I have come out of a mental and emotional abuse relationship and my ex is going out of his way to be a complete pig towards me. He shouts at me in front of the kids, sends horrible messages to my phone and says i am mental when in fact it is him. He has paid £400 maintenance once but only gave me £100 this month as he said he is paying off the debts. I want him to be civil to me and respectful in front of the kids but he has turned so bitter and angry towards me. I just want peace he treated me terrible and still tries to control me even though we are separated. How can he stop the maintenance why should he punish the kids just because he hates me. How do i move on from this? X