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    TedStar19
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    Hi

    ive literally just split with my boyfriend of almost 10 years. We have 2 kids aged 2 and 4 months. I currently live up north but all my family are down south and I’m really stuck with what to do. I do have a few friends up here but I feel like I need to be closer to my family, have felt that for a while now.

    im hoping we can sort things amicably (just a case of falling out of love really, no ones at fault) and I want to be fair but how can I ensure my happiness and his if the kids are 4 hours away?
    im really struggling to figure out what to do for best

    any advise or experience gratefully received!

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    steve3334
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    hi,

    he can still manage to see kids, how about every other weekend, fri-sun. would he be interested in that?

    #54177 Report

    When I broke up with my partner I was in a similar position, hours away from close friends and family, I moved to be nearer to them. (He doesn’t have a role in my little one’s life but I think that would have been inevitable without distance) You have to do what’s best for you and the kids, being that they are so young you will need the support network, if he can provide that then great but if not I would move, he can still see them it will just mean organising travel and time. Best of luck!

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    Lisa1983
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    I’m also in this predicament, but I think I’ve come to the conclusion that you need to be where you will be happy snd supported rather than chose somewhere out of convenience for ex to see children, he can travel or you can meet half way??

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    Gummibear123
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    My kids dad usually sees them once a week.He’s moved 3.5 hours away and it’s a pain for him but he does it or he wouldn’t see the kids.(Also,if anyone asks it sounds like he’s an amazing dad.)We won’t mention that when he gets here he does nothing worth the trip but still the fact that he makes the effort means something to me/the kids.So moving 4 hours away doesn’t have to be the end of the world,it’s still workable if ur both willing.

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