Raising black children
8 January 2020 at 12:18 pm #35042
I am raising a wonderful daughter who turns 3 soon. We live in a community that doesn’t really have diversity. I want to raise a child who is confident and proud of her skin colour and kink in her hair. What are your experiences if you are in the same boat as us?9 January 2020 at 10:05 am #35075
Thank you Jessica. I will check the book out.9 January 2020 at 10:09 am #35076
And yes It’s great that your child is in a diverse setting. I am looking at activities that will have as socialising more with people who look like us. Its become very apparent to me that it’s important. I had never really thought too deeply about it because I grew up with people who looked like me.9 January 2020 at 3:40 pm #35093
What a lovely message JJ! Being a single parent is no joke. I think and rethink the same thing and j recently realised it’s because I’m not bouncing off ideas on how to raise her with another adult who is as deeply invested in her as I am. Also, i worry I’m over sharing things she did or said because it was funny etc.
my concern about diversity has also come about because she loves hair with movement and also noticed that at nursery pictures of pals house families are traditional looking(mother, father and siblings) but they are also all and only white. How does this impact a child when happy family representation don’t look like her family? Do the books they read have brown/ black kids? Do we need to move so that we can see people like us more often? (Btw, we just moved into our home in November 😓).
mind you… all this questions just popped into my head the last few days…. so I’m figuring it out and speaking to people who have older children and have dealt with race and single family will certainly help.
well done on getting your daughter into the school! I do believe that being active and finding something they love helps with confidence.
all said and done, this journey is wonderful and I am so lucky to be a mum if this wonderful, funny little person.9 January 2020 at 8:40 pm #3509811 January 2020 at 10:18 pm #35386
Hi, I am also raising a mixed-race son and sometimes worry I’m not going to be able to help him learn enough about the other half that makes him, him.
Something that made me smile back in the summer, we were in the park – 1 of his first times on a swing and a little boy said to me , he looks just like I did when I was little, I said, does he? he said yes he has the same skin and hair like me and he’s just as handsome as me too- I almost cried ! but anyway, unfortunately, being an older mum we have no friends with babies but my best friend has mixed-race children although they are adults now.
Anyway, I’m rambling! Just wanted to let you know your not the only one with this worry x12 January 2020 at 10:25 am #35401
Hope your Sunday morning is going okay. Just a sentence this morning to keep this thread near the top as it is so important.
jj12 January 2020 at 11:01 am #35403
Hi Alipally. I totally feel you. I have started to feel the need to have a play group with single parents. It would be invaluable! We had a play date at my house yesterday with a family from Zimbabwe and it was so wonderful. We would like to have more but I can appreciate they are busy family with other things to do and others to see as they are loads of them 😄. So after they all left I got thinking that a group that meets monthly or so would be great.
We are in Bromsgrove Worcestershire so if anyone is within a resonable distance please let me know if this interests you.
@jj Happy Sunday! Miserable weather here but we are going out in hope of joining a sports club nearby. We visited last weekend and I thought it could be a great way to keep active, meet people.12 January 2020 at 3:19 pm #35419
don’t forget about possibility of starting your own group W.
Understand gingers will help. Thought of doing this myself but I’m not quite there yet with my confidence and situation
working on it.
More power to your elbows eh
jj12 January 2020 at 9:16 pm #35431
Good start to the week everyone. Not sure about that storm setting in, we have a way to go till Spring.
jj14 January 2020 at 12:04 pm #35505
That sounds like a great idea Wacera, Unfortunatly your about 80 miles from me, I don’t drive so it would be very difficult.Please keep us updated though if you do start a group as it would be something id be interested in.14 January 2020 at 2:54 pm #35510
This is interesting as my daughter is mixed race and looks nothing like me . I have been mistaken for child minder and have been told by random strangers that she is not my child when out and about14 January 2020 at 7:39 pm #35549
That is disgusting! I have been asked on many occasions if my son is mine but for a complete stranger to say she’s not your child??? What is wrong with people !!!!!!!14 January 2020 at 8:31 pm #35561
I know it’s bad but now I answer them back especially random strangers. Maybe they think dark people can’t have white children but my grand mother and elder sister where quite pale with olive complexion and I’m dark in comparison.
I use to be shocked when people approached me as we live stream n quite a cosmopolitan area . now i answer people back and they would say I was only asking like they had the right to question me . This person came.up to me about the whereabouts of my childs mother I just said I’m the black nanny and that was that.14 January 2020 at 10:35 pm #35575
Lol good for you !