Problem with ex partner

[annajot]

Hello,

My name is Anna and I’m pregnant with my first child.

I want to ask you for any advice, I have problems with my ex partner. We didn’t know each other to long and I find out I’m pregnant, he decided he doesn’t want to do this with me, pushed me to do abortion and finally blocked me. I didn’t have contact with him like 2 months. He texted me after 2 months that he want to do this with me tried to apologise and all this stuff. I decided to give him a chance but now I start to be worry about his behaviour, he start to be really dominate, If I’m not agree with him he start to be angry and annoying. Yesterday when we spoke he said to me if after born baby I decided that he is not involve he gonna go to the court. I stat to be afraid of him. I’m alone in England, I’m trying to find a place where I can live with a baby, no one helps me so I’m afraid that he can take baby away from me, and on the beginning he even doesn’t want it. He said he want ti do this 50/50.

Do I need to agree that he gonna take baby regularly and see baby without me even if it’s nww born? With rights I can have?

I’m really sorry for all my mistakes with writing.

I will be really grateful for any support and advices.

 

Anna.

[Lullabelle]

Hi,

I’m so sorry you’ve been through all this. Just know that you are very strong.

I’m sorry, I don’t really have any advise but I just wanted to let you know how amazing you are. Hopefully you’ve found some help. Happy to chat if you just need someone to listen to. Xx

[GingerbreadJustine]

Hi Annajot

I’m one of the moderators here and I am sorry you are feeling like this.  Its important that as well as getting support from other parents on the forum who may have been in similar situations we give you the details of agencies that may be able to give you professional advice.  You have talked about being afraid.  You can always speak with the National Domestic Violence Helpline.  They not only deal with people that have been physically abused but also emotional abuse too.  On the helpline they will be able to discuss your options with you.

I also recommend that you contact our single parent helpline.  Our advisers are experienced with what rights you are entitled too they will be able to explore this further.  Below are the details for both helplines and I wish you and your baby well for the future.

• National Domestic Violence helpline – for support with regards to current or historic abuse  Freephone, 24-hour: 0808 2000 247 http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/

• Gingerbread Single Parent Helpline – Freephone 0808 802 0925

Opening hours:  Mon 10 – 6, Tues 10- 4, Wed 10 – 1 & 5 – 7, Thurs 10 – 4, Fri 10 – 4  They can be busy so callers can expect to wait up to 20 minutes before the call is answered

I hope this helps, Justine

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