I am brand new here today, and saw the website through google.
I am 31 weeks pregnant and not had the best pregnancy in terms of emotions with my ex of three years dropping on me that he has been living a total separate life in London (Im Manchester based) and had a baby in October to another woman that I obviously knew nothing about. As I chose to NOT continue a relationship with him (he did kindly give me this choice) I have since heard nothing and been consequently left alone.
I think reality has now hit. Antenatal classes, regular midwife appointments, birthing centre viewing etx. I am absolutely petrified about doing this alone. I am lucky I have great parents and a sister with two small children, but both are married and chosen parenthood the “normal” way. Additionally I have zero friends in the single mother camp either. Everyone is trying so hard to be kind and supportive, but I just really dont feel anyone has a clue of how I am feeling or why and I am not sure if what they have or could say would make me feel better anyway.
Is it just hormones, who knows?
I sincerley hope noone else has been in a similar position to myself but simply thought I would reach out using this medium to see if I could get any friendly support from my usual support network. Maybe a voice from the outside perspective might make me feel somewhat more relieved and ready for what my future holds xx
I became a single parent when I was pregnant too. I have a 5 month old son now and I am so glad that I am not in a toxic relationship. I was able to give birth the way I wanted to and have been able to give my son a calm start in life.
It is great that you have the support of your family, my sister was my birth partner and I have moved back in with my parents. It’s actually so much better. I know it hurts, but it’s better it happens before rather than later.
I know what you are going through, and it sucks when you see hardly any representation of your situation in the birth preparation. But there are others who have gone through it, and when I feel upset and confused about it I know that in time it will get easier.
Once you see your baby you will be so in love, it really is wonderful! There are so many positives to doing this alone, especially if the person you were with wasn’t good enough to you!
Hope my words give you some comfort, you are not alone!