Pregnant, going through a break up, questioning sexuality

[NewMamaFairy]

Hi, I’m 39 years old and 24 weeks pregnant with my first child. The father has been so unkind throughout the pregnancy and I don’t see a future for us as a family. I always identified as Bi-sexual but now after learning more about the spectrum of ways to identify, I am drawn to the idea that  Pan-sexual describes how I feel more accurately. I am feeling very isolated and scared about the future, and the prospect of being a single parent. My partner has a child from a previous partner who he has minimal contact with, so I imagine myself headed for a situation that is mainly me as a single parent. Maybe there are parents out there who can identify with some of what I have expressed here? I feel I’m really exhausted with male energy, after having several abusive relationships in the past with men. No disrespect to the nice guys out there but I’m hoping at the moment to find female friends and peers, who I can relate to, I think it would help to feel less alone. Hello out there!

[Grace_Lee]

Hey there

I’ve only just joined so I’m brand new to all of this. I usually read but never comment or reach out.

I’m about 15 weeks pregnant and also fear I’m about to become single so really struggling to get my head round it. I would love to chat to others in a similar situation irrelevant of circumstances xx

[NewMamaFairy]

Hi Grace Lee

Glad someone reached out too. I’m sorry you are experiencing a similar thing, it is hard to get to grips with for sure. I hope you have some other support around you? Due to the current situation with lockdown the isolation is definitely making it much harder for me.

Reach out if you want to talk about anything in particular. Feeling less alone is definitely a start for me anyway x

[Stephanie-91]

Hi there!

I am going through the same thing at the moment, 11 weeks pregnant and split from the baby’s dad last week. From his actions since I am pretty sure he isn’t going to be involved much. Feeling at such a loss just now and don’t know if I can cope on my own.

Send me a message if you would like to talk!

[Waunderful]

I completely get where you are coming from!

I’ve had abusive relationships with men too as well as ones where I was cheated on etc  It’s exhausting to invest into a relationship and be let down and open up to someone new and be let down again over and over.

I don’t hate men, but I’m not sure how easy I’d find it to trust a new man romantically again. I’m not sure women are any better either. I guess we won’t know until we try!

I think it’s okay to be confused about your sexuality. For some it is simple, for some it’s complex. Complexity can be frustrating but also beautiful and exciting.

Enjoy 🙂

[NewMamaFairy]

Hi Stephanie,

I’m sorry to hear you split from your partner but if he wasn’t being kind to you maybe you are better off. I’m still with my partner, I don’t have much of a choice at the moment due to various things. I’m trying to give him a chance to redeem himself… We don’t spend much time actually together though. He’s not really interested in me at the moment so I spend most days alone. I hope you have some support? It’s a difficult time for many people I realise.. Sending you strength x

[Pesto]

I’ve always found that gender is one of the least important of criteria

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