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    Brass85
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    Hi

     

    This is the first time I’ve posted as im new here.

     

    Split with my bf few months ago due to catching him chatting any woman up he could  on social media and dating sites but still been in contact.

    It has plunged me into a massive depression.

    I feel so lonely yet i dont want to be around anyone.  Im meant to be returning to work next week and im an absolute emotional wreck. Im 25 weeks pregnant this week too.

    Ive had covid over Christmas Really bad and for 1 week he was ringing me checking on me. Soon as Christmas gone…. he turned on me started an argument and told me im on my own. Had no contact for 2 days now. All ive done is uncontrollably cry. He telks me he doesn’t want to be with me in the next breath he loves me.

    Just feel my feelings are being played with. Confused and dont know where i stand dont know what to do, what to think . Scared being on my own in labour.  Just dont know why im even posting this

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    Andrew uk
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    Hi. Sorry to hear this. Do you have parents or family or friends around who could support you during labour?

    Sorry you had covid. I hope you are feeling better. It’s a scary time anyway but must be harder with being pregnant.

    Message me if you want and we can chat.

    There’s plenty of support out there.

    Maybe going back to work and some normality is just what you need.

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    Brass85
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    Thank you for you reply. I think the same about work but its a highly pressurised role and im scared ill fold if anything gets too much.

    I do have friends and family that could possibly be there for Labour but im just finding it hard to come to terms with it not being how i had originally thought

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    Andrew uk
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    Let your employer know. Keep them informed. See if you can be put on lighter duties,  if appropriate.

    Yes i know what you mean about things being different. It’s good you have the support. Make use of them and their support.

    I’m a dad so can’t speak from experience but mdke sure you gave your birthing-plan ready.

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    Andrew uk
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    It’s a different situation but for all you know it could be better. Things often have a way of working out like that.

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    Brass85
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    Thank you so much.

    I can do it on my own ive already done it on my own once before from a previous relationship.

     

    Just feel completely abandoned at such a vulnerable time and he he just doesn’t care.  Think thats what hurts the most.

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    Andrew uk
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    You have been strong enough to do it once. And managed really well. You cam do it again.

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    Andrew uk
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    I’m here to listen to you, if it helps. It will hurt but it will get easier, i promise.

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    Brass85
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    Oh it hurts alright. Never felt pain like this 💔 probably doesn’t help im hormonal too.

    He tells me to grow up if i cry because im upset. I just want a hug and someone to make things right and better.

    Thank you for listening   feel like im burdening my friends and family because they are sick of hearing about it. Just cant pull myself out of it no matter hiw hard i try 😔

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    dannii009
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    I’m sorry that your world has been turned upside down! I broke up with my ex when I was 2 months pregnant and my only advice is focus on the baby and forget about your ex. Either he’ll step up or he won’t, you’ll find out in time. But there’s nothing you can do about it. Look after yourself and your little one. That little one will bring you more love and joy than you’ll ever get from anywhere else. I know it must be heartbreaking knowing you might have to do it on your own again but better doing it alone than doing it with someone who treats you awfully xx

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    *deleted user*
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    Didn’t want to read and run.

    It is hard, no doubt. Glad that some on here are able to offer support.

    Just to also mention Frolo for friendship.

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