So I’ve got myself into a bit of a mess: I’m 33, only been with my partner for 5 months and I am now 10 weeks pregnant. Up until the last week he’s seemed fine and we were in the process of getting a house. However he’s now had a meltdown and is saying he can’t handle it and he doesn’t want any of this. After a few unsuccessful attempts at talking, it’s now looking like I’m in this on my own.
I have a good job and earn enough to keep myself going now, but there’s no way I’ll be able to save enough and afford my flat when I’m on maternity leave.
Does anyone have any advice on what I do now? Has anyone been pregnant and single and had to financially and emotionally support themselves that can give me some advice? I’m really scared and its so overwhelming to think about planning all of this.
Hi…my name is Izzy and I met someone in February and after being told i couldnt have children 10 years ago never expected to get pregnant lol…in May he left when I was 9 weeks pregnant. I was terrified and had no idea how I was going to cope as I have a job that doesn’t pay us maternity pay. I went to CAB and found that I could apply for statutory maternity pay and a top up of universal credit as well as child benefit…. they worked it all out for me and although it will be tight I know I will be able to manage for the 6 months I’m planning on being off work. Every one of my single mum friends have said it’s so much better doing it on their own and I’m hoping it’s going to be the same for me too. The only problem I have is I moved to a new area at Xmas last year and I don’t know anyone here.
I’ve had some days where I feel abit low as it’s not how i imagined it to be But being a strong independent person I know I can do it on my own and I’m sure you will too xx
Thanks for your reply. It’s a pretty scary time losing the man I love and knowing I’ve got this ahead of me, but it does help to know others have been through it and are doing okay on their own. Finances are my biggest concern at the moment. I have a good job and get statutory maternity pay, but I live in Manchester and rent is so expensive I don’t think I’ll mange it just on that. I’ll get to the CAB and see what they can advise. This really isn’t how I saw this unfolding!
I have moved to Scarborough where it’s almost double the rent I was paying in South Yorkshire…. I only get 6 weeks maternity pay…then have to go on statutory maternity pay after that…. so know what u mean.