I’ve just walked out of my relationship of 2 years, and am 2 months pregnant. My partner has been separated for 5 years and the stress of his ongoing divorce (process started before we met) and financial settlement with his estranged wife has taken its toll. She is ademant not to settle until she knows my finances (which I am refusing as I have nothing to do with the divorce and came on the scene well after), and to be honest up until 8 weeks ago, it was also not relevant(!) as my partner and I do not cohabit, we do not pay each others bills and each have our own properties, I am a high earner though that will change when I am on maternity, I have no family or close friends about.
Not sure what to do in terms of preparing for my child future and my finances (mortgage, statutory maternity pay…) anyone gone through or going through the same? Can do with some advice, my head hurts….
Focus on getting yourself somewhere to live (if you don’t already) that’s suitable for you and baby long term. Even if you decide to move you don’t want to be forced into moving with a new baby. Then when you’ve got that place focus on getting everything ready for baby, and plan how you’re going to manage financially and with childcare if you need to go back to work etc. Once you’ve got these main points sorted you will be better able to relax and enjoy the time with your baby. Your focus now is you and your baby, so try to distance yourself as much as you can from your ex’a problems and his ex partner.