I am 3 months pregnant and was dumped by my boyfriend of a year a few days ago. He has a 5 year old daughter from a previous relationship who he has every other weekend. I can only spend the day with them at the moment as I get very tired since being pregnant and my boyfriend was fine with this originally. However he has had an email from his ex saying that his daughter is missing me and that she is now not going to be staying overnight until there is structure and routine with me. My boyfriend told me I have to be there when his daughter is there but I said I can’t commit to that and as a result he has said he can’t be with me. I don’t know what to do, any advice would be much appreciated.
Well, the first thing is if your bf would dump you over something so minor, then he’s clearly not worth the bother, and you deserve a lot better.
also, his ex seems to be saying that she is only happy for their daughter to stay the night, if you are there. Which implies that she doesn’t trust her ex to act responsibly. That’s not good. And you aren’t a free babysitting service.
For your bf to be any kind of a dad and partner, he has to learn to balance the needs of his family, and that means you, his dd and your future child.
Unless he turns up to apologise and comes up with a compromise, within the next week, I think you are well rid of him. You can’t spend your life coming second or third or wherever he’s put you in the pecking order. Sorry, probably not what you wanted to hear.
Thank you so much for replying to my post, it might not be what I wanted to hear but it is exactly what I needed to hear because I have burying me head in the sand with this relationship thinking it was normal.