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    Hi all,

    I’m reaching out for some support as I just found out I am 2 weeks pregnant from a rather casual relationship with a housemate and am unsure what to do…

    A bit of background about myself -I’ve just moved to London from Australia in January this year with a rather stable career in M&A. I am going through a divorce at the moment but it’s a rather simple divorce as we were married for 6 months and had to stay separated for 12 months before filing for a divorce which is happening this month!

    Basically moved to London for a fresh start , met this guy who lives in the same house share and we became really good mates (with occasional benefits). We had unprotected sex a few times and I never thought I would fall pregnant because I have PCOS and it’s not easy. But yes I shouldn’t have chanced it anyway , he shouldn’t have either.

    He was pretty clear from the beginning that he’s not in the right headspace to date seriously at the moment so it was just casual but mostly we were just friends. Now that I found out I’m pregnant I was terrified but excited at the same time because I love kids and I’ve always always wanted to have one. Although not like this .. I told him about it and he’s made it pretty clear that he wants me to have an abortion and he’s not ready and would be very selfish if i go ahead and have it anyway. I told him He doesn’t need to be involved if he doesn’t want to but he started telling me how difficult it would be if I do it on my own , he said my friends and family would have a hard time accepting this , my career will take a back seat and my whole life would change. After that chat with him I’m torn and I’m unsure what to do or how to feel about this .

    i would be ever so grateful for some advise or just some of you sharing your experience if you were ever in a similar situation.

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    It doesn’t matter what anyone wants to except it’s about you and what you want.

    You need to make your own mind up and only you can do this don’t feel pressured to do anything

    I had my son on my own a decision I made and I didn’t look back.Yes it was hard I had no help but he’s 23 now and he’s amazing

    Anyway I just wanted you to know do what you want and what’s best for you.It will last a lifetime whatever you decided

    Good Luck x

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    Thank you – appreciate the kind works and support!

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