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    Bethan-Rose
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    Hi,

    im 23 years old and 6 months pregnant with my first baby. The dad doesnt want to be involved at all, we were never in a relationship so he feels its not his responsibility to stick around. I’ve been feeling extremely alone and like im not going to be able to do this and bringing my child into the world with only one parent makes me the worst mum ever 🙁 my family havent supported me emotionally/mentally as much as they claimed they would when i first found out i was pregnant and now i just feel like me and my baby are an inconvience to everyone. Has anyone else felt like this and if so how do you get over this feeling? A part of me regrets going through with the pregnancy because of how much my situation is effecting me but majority of me knows i’ll do anything possible to make sure im the best mum for my baby.

     

    any advice would be so helpful❤️ Please not hurtful comments, im just trying to do my best.

    #46722 Report

    Anonymous
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    Bethan, there is no good reason that anyone on here would give you any hurtful comments.

    You’ve been brave going through this.  Don’t regret going through with it, you are in good company…. there are millions of people in your situation all who have at some point or other had second thoughts or regrets or doubts about their abilities but are in fact the best mums ever.  Truth is be it a mum or a dad, as a parent either single or still together you go through those thoughts… you doubt yourself and sometimes it takes someone to just point out you’re doing great for you to realize it.  It’s natural…. the very fact you are questioning yourself as a mother is an indication of you caring for your baby’s welfare.  Just re-read what you put above and I quote “<span style=”background-color: #fbfbfb; color: #1a1919; font-family: Lato, sans-serif;”>’l’ll do anything possible to make sure I’m the best mum for my baby”.  That speaks for itself.</span>

    You’re going to do great and anyone who’s not supporting you now will be the ones to lose out, (especially the baby’s dad).

    Keep doing what you’re doing and ask for help and support if you need it from people that will give it.

    Try to get in touch with other mums in your area if you can and don’t stop that dream you had when you first got pregnant…. just keep your eyes on where you wanted to be 9 months on, and visualise yourself as a great mum cause that’s what you’ll be.  What you certainly don’t need right now is stress… focus on keeping yourself fit and healthy cause that is important for the baby as the baby is relying on your  body right now, so looking after you is looking after them.

    You’re going to be ok.

     

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    Mama B
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    Hey hunny, that must be so difficult for you. Could you perhaps speak with your midwife to put you in touch with any local support groups, do you have any close friends? Covid lock downs must also make it harder. Have you spoken to your family to make then aware of how they’re making you feel?

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