Plz can i have some advice?
Basically i have 8 children ( 2 adults now one has left home)
Anyway i have 6 with my ex partner aged 15,12, 10,8 and twins aged 5
8yr old is asd and adhd and boy twin waiting on diagnoses suspected adhd
Me and their dad seperated 4 yrs ago he temporarily moved in to a 2 bed static caravan he was working mon to fri 9- 2.30 but was offered a driving job with same company with “occasional” weekends! We had agreed for him to have children every other weekend but due to him saying his place was not suitable he would stay here with kids and i would stay with friends or book a weekend away to get some proper time out! Anyway over past 4yrs i have been extremely laid back he comes when he pleases in the week lets himself in,does his washing,has some tea etc ect
But now his new job seems to be every weekend! He has not made any effort to tell his boss he has childrenevery other weekend and i asked him 3 weeks ago to book this weekend off as i have plans (bearing in mind ive just taken kids to greece for a week and this is 6th weekend he hasnt had them) he didnt book it off and now says hes working! I feel at breaking point! Ive told him in future if hes agreed to work on his weekend then to not bother coming here! Im tired of having to leave my own home and sick of when he comes over he lays about on phone or falling asleep yet im still running around tidying after kids!
He refuses to move, refuses to remove name from house tennancy, refuses mediation and i basically feel controlled as he always asking where im going who with etc
Do you think im unreasonable for saying this?
Would appreciate any advice i feel at wits end!
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