I have been married for almost 16 years. In all my married life, I have hardly had any finacial support from my husband who has never managed to work. Eventually we seperated. He found work and basically left us to look after himself. I hired a baby sitter who I obviously had to pay. During this time my husband quit his job (no surprises) and was without work again, so offered to help with the kids, which I initially thought could work as they missed him. BUT now I have to pay him so that he can keep paying his rent as he refuses to move back with us (as I am such an aweful wife) and complains I am paying him to little. What really bothers me is that we married for better or for worse. He also has a bit of a porn habit – I am not entirely sure how bad it is but I have accidently found images on his phone I would REALLY not have liked to see. Having said this, he is good with the kids and I can still see a good man in there. When is enough enough? I go between being convinced divorce is the only way to set me free from a clearly toxic relationship and feeling incredibly guilty at being the one who will break up out marraige. When do you know when to push through, and when to end it – I am so confused. Thank you