6 October 2020 at 2:48 pm #44637
Hi everyone, I’ve just been told about this group and would love to talk to other single parents. My partner passed away 8 weeks ago and I was coping quite well. But now I’m feeling quite lonely especially in the evenings and having horrible flashbacks of how my partner died. I have a 2 year old little girl.
Emma from Essex xx6 October 2020 at 5:40 pm #44647
Hi Emma Jane M
I’m one of the moderators here at Gingerbread. I am sorry for your loss but I am please you have posted here today. There will be parents on this forum who may have been in similar situations as yourself and hopefully it won’t be long before others make contact with you. In the meantime there are a couple of agencies that may be of use to you. Here are their details:
• Widowed and Young provide peer to peer support service for men and women under 50 who have lost a partner. It is run by a network of volunteers and offers a range of services. https://www.widowedandyoung.org.uk/
• Cruse Bereavement Care offers face to face, telephone and online support to those who have lost someone. https://www.cruse.org.uk/
I hope that helps and I wish you and your daughter well for the future.
Kind regards, Justine6 October 2020 at 6:26 pm #44651
Thankyou Justine x6 October 2020 at 7:28 pm #44652
Hi Emma Jane
Really sorry for your loss, I can’t pretend understand.
This is my first post, not sure if this is a private email or if it’s on the forum 🙈. Clearly not a tech head. Personally I have had years of shite that is now gladly over, so I am the proud owner of a crazy 8 year old who lives with me full time, her mum kinda sees her sometimes… And a Pug who is 14 weeks old and currently eating my carpet 😄.
I guess I am now in a place I didn’t think I would get to, a happy place, my issues are nothing like what you must be going through, but I have ears and a voice and happy to chat, to help, to listen.
Steve6 October 2020 at 9:08 pm #44654
Hi Emma, first of all so sorry for your loss, I imagine you are still in shock and on auto pilot, I lost my wife over 9 years ago, I do know what you are going through, in the early days I found talking about what I went through really helpful. Like Justine has already said WAY is a great group, I think the thing that really hit me was the amount of people who were Widowed so young, maybe I was a bit naive and thought I was one of a few.
I hope you have plenty of support, people use to say to me just take each days at a time and if that does not work then just take each hour at a time.
Paul x6 October 2020 at 10:47 pm #44655
thank you for your kind messages, it’s somewhat reassuring in a nice way that there are people that understand. I was doing quite well and just getting on but in the last few weeks I’ve been getting these horrid flashbacks, I’m going to get some counselling. Thankful for my little girl she keeps me going x7 October 2020 at 3:32 pm #44660
Hi Emma, my girls were 2 and 5 when my wife died and it is them that kept me going, they kept me really busy, swimming lessons, gymnastics, play therapy etc they are now 11 and 14 even now I do not know how i got here, It does get easier but you never forget and youys still have bad days, I guess you just learn to cope, like you I still suffer from flashbacks normally around the anniversary of when she died.
Counselling will be good for you, I think I spent the first two years chatting to various counsellors. I also find exercise helps me, going for a run or going to the gym helps when I am hitting a low day. Always here if you need to message or someone to rant at. x