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    Monkeymummy03
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    Been co-parenting for 3 years been through mediation. So he has my little girl two full  weekend and one weekend is a half weekend and he has a weekend off.

    Now it’s he’s changed weekends to suit him and I’ve tried to work around it to find someone to have my lg whilst I’m at work on the Saturdays. Which I always make sure I’ve got someone to have her when it’s his weekend off.

    I’m trying to find out if it’s my responsibility to find someone to have her the weekends when it his time to have her. If he’s got work(which he tells me last minute that he has work) and I work every Saturday.

    Bare in mind I’ve changed my hours round to suit school hours as he was unable/refusing  to collect her from nursery at the time was arranged in mediation.

    He also has a wife and she’s refusing to look after her for him whilst hes at work. Stating she’s not a babysitter.

    If anyone can point me in the right direction before I’d have to go back to mediation.

     

    #30797 Report

    Mike_71
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    So he has my little girl

    “My little girl” or “our little girl”?

    I’m not being facetious, there’s a difference in the legal position. If it’s not “our little girl” does this man have parental responsibility which has a specific meaning in law different to responsibilities of a parent (the context you may have meant)?

    In any case, the answer to your question isn’t simple. The size of child support payments is related to the number of days per year that each parent undertakes to look after the child. If he is not meeting his court mandated number of days, there may be some scope to appeal to the court to change your award.

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    #30800 Report

    Monkeymummy03
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    Yes I should have worded it our little girl. I’m not really questioning the maintenance side of it.

    All I was trying to find out was if its his weekend to have our little girl at his. And he’s been put in to work. Is it his responsibility to find someone to look after her whilst he’s at work. Or as he’s claiming its my responsibility to find someone for him. As this is what’s causing an argument.

    #30803 Report

    Ramblinjon
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    If your ex is due to have your daughter then it’s his responsibility to sort childcare if HE can’t have her for whatever reason. His new wife sounds ‘lovely’ seeing as she doesn’t realise that if you are with someone who has children then they come as part of the package.

    #30807 Report

    Monkeymummy03
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    That’s what I’ve been trying to tell him. Is there anything that I can do or anything online to prove this? Or is it more on the moral lines then the law? Been trying to find something to prove this.

    #30808 Report

    Ramblinjon
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    As there is no court order I think it’s more of a moral/logical thing.

    However if you want to check then give this organisation a ring:

    Child law advice service 0300 330 5480

    #30825 Report

    Monkeymummy03
    Participant

    Thank you I will give them a call

    #30839 Report

    Mike_71
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    You could also call Gingerbread, of course 😉

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