Parental arrangement not working

[Freising]

Hi, I’m new and a very sad at the moment.

I have a 6 year old daughter and I am recently divorced. My ex is impossible to reason or communicate with. My daughter lives with me full time and we have a family based agreement, my ex is responsible for every other weekend is basically the arrangement.

Recently my ex has started avoiding his weekends, making excuses not to take care of our daughter. The psychological impact on my daughter is huge and I am really having a hard time as I believe access to her father is important. I am essentially trying to pursuade her father to meet his responsibility. It is stressful, and usually descends into a row with my ex.

Basically I am after some sound advice as to how I legally deal with his behaviour and lack of adherence to our agreement. Are there steps I can take to resolve this dispute? Can I report my ex’s behaviour to a responsible authority? Maybe CSA?

I’m lost and frustrated and if anyone has some clear advice I’d welcome it.

[Freising]

Thanks so much and I think I am at this conclusion already.

My ex’s agreement is for every other weekend, which is approx. Minimum 52 nights per year. If my ex’s contact falls below this figure do I have recourse to seek further childmaintenance contribution?

There does not seem to be any consequence to my exse behaviour. My family have been supportive and I am now trying to remove all emotion from our communication, which is difficult but I do not want to go to his level or have things decend into a row. I do have access to my ex’s in-laws, they recognise his behaviour is poor however blood is thicker than water and this means I get nowhere with them which ends in a valid outcome.

Thanks for your post I need to get strong and work towards my new normal.

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