Online dating for confidence?

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    kentmale72
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    Im so sorry with what you have been through,  cant imagine what thar was like, i imagine your very protective of your little boy now, we never really know who we are letting into our lives.  My girls are now 10 and 13, youngest can’t remember her mum but the eldest still has memories.

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    Sarah0407
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    It part of my past it made me a stronger person. My sons my everything we are always together don’t even like sending him to school. I can imagine how hard it’s been for you.

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    Lisa8097
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    Hi I’m currently on POF, Eharmony and Match. The last 2 which I have paid loads for have not even led to any chats. I’ve had lots of chats on POF but none have yet led to any dates. I’m beginning to think there’s something wrong with me! It doesn’t do much for your confidence!

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    kentmale72
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    hi Lisa i know what you mean, I am on POF, Match and Bumble, you sometimes end up chatting with people and it turns into just messages, when I have met someone that has lasted for 5 or so weeks then it goes cold, It seems so much harder these days and nothing seems to be natural., seems like everyone that I meet are into game playing, very frustrating.  Paul

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    Sarah0407
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    I just think they all want a quick fix and don’t want to take the time to talk.

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    Lisa8097
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    Hi Kentmale, it seems like most people are just looking for sex or an extra marital affair on POF! I was widowed in July after 22 years with my husband. It’s been almost 23 years since I lasted dated and I can’t believe how the dating scene has changed since then!

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    kentmale72
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    I am so sorry for your loss, I do know how you feel though, I was also widowed in July 2011 although it has been almost 8 years sometimes it feels like a lifetime and other times like 5 minutes ago, I also think was i ever married, strange how your brain works.  I hope you are getting lots of support.  Paul.

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    Kanger1
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    Yes i had a dabble with bumble and agree it feels like it is knocking my confidence rather than building it, I feel quite old too for some reason 😕 bring back the days where people talked to each other in bars, pubs etc. Miss all the banter you could have face to face.

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    Lisa8097
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    Thanks Kanger and Paul. Yes bring back the days of just chatting to someone without feeling pressured to jump into bed!

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    kentmale72
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    I think the trouble with dating sites is you could be having a good chat with someone but they could be messaging other people at the same time to keep options open, then suddenly they go quiet and you do not hear from them again, it happened to me, was chatting to someone, arranged to meet for a coffee, she went quiet then turned out she had met someone else, then about 2 months later she sent me a message via the dating app asking if i wanted to meet for a coffee,  turned out it did not work out, told her to stop playing games.

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    Lisa8097
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    Yes I know I hate the fact that people are messaging others to keep their options open. I had a couple of dates arranged but then they just ignored me on the days we were to meet so the dates never happened.

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    kentmale72
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    Yes I have had that, will give you an example, i once went to a gingerbread group maybe 4 years ago, some women were chatting about dating sites, one was just on the site to mess about with no intention of ever meeting anyone, she got loads of messages, the genuine woman who wanted to meet someoe got very little attention, I do not think I will ever understand the dating game, it seems everyone plays by different rules.  i think they should come with a health risk as they do seriously damage your mental well being.

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    Lisa8097
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    I agree, it’s just a game to some people. But the genuine people just want to find happiness again.

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    Iwanttobeme
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    I have been single a while now. And can honeslty say interent dating has been one of the best things i ever decided do to boost my confidence. I haven’t meet someone long term but have met a few grest guys and a few bad.

    The good has out weighed the bad. Ive learnt alot of things about myself and who i want going forward now.

     

     

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    Rae42
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    Hiya all – I tried the bumble app – plenty of chats – met up a couple of times – then you get fed up of reintroducing your self & story lol , it was good for self confidence tho that start of getting back in the game 😀 – only 1 didn’t really look like his pics (photoshop has a lot to answer for haha) but I’d still try it again – you won’t meet ny1 if you don’t try x

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