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    Kanger1
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    Had a bit of wine so had a look at online dating. Fortunately a friend of old stopped me getting into it. Probably not a good idea for a while yet just having a wobble I think….does anyone else ponder this route? Over 40 and with a child the options feel more limited for meeting someone new.  Just feel like it would be a laugh for getting flirting skills and confidence? back to what they were.

    #20862 Report

    Schubert
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    Hiya

    Have you tried Bumble?

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    Sherinam
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    I did it for a laugh. Honestly don’t take it seriously. I just needed to get my confidence back.  I met weirdos but never met anyone because they seemed  desperate.  The last bloke put a 20 year old picture up which was not that bad as he was so nice and we never stopped chatting .  I then realised he was an enormous alcoholic with a job that took him overseas which was similar to my ex. He kept falling over in home and bash himself up. We kept agreeing to meet but he would cancel so after 3 strikes that was it . The funny thing was thst he kept instigating it but comkng up with feeble excuse.  At first I was upset but looking back it was love bombing with a bit of love bombing. He accidentally signed off with his full name so i Googled  him. It was a lucky escape!!

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    Sherinam
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    I meant gaslighting too!

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    Kanger1
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    I can imagine these sites attract strange people 😆 years ago when I lived in London there was a site for young professionals to make friends, I soon discovered it was more a dating site so didn’t stay on it long..those were the days when people actually talked to each other in bars etc. though so online wasn’t needed?

    Think I will go on and not take it too seriously 😏…just have some banter. Not sure I would meet up with anyone, my friends tell me I should I guess they recognise I need to get out there again 🤔

    #20871 Report

    Sherinam
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    Try meet up groups, I’m sure that not everyone has issues on these sites. Am so glad that the last person i was talking to one never met because he was so convincing.  He completely fooled me and it’s a good job that I was not taken in by his nonsense . I have blocked him on my phone because I am not that desperate for an alcoholic gas lighting creep

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    Schubert
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    Hiya,

    No really Bumble is really good. I’ve had some nice dates with guys from there. Plus the woman makes the first move.

    Zoosk is quite good as well. However, some of the Facebook groups are ok as well.

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    Lou1979
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    Hi, jumping on this post.. .why are they all so expensive. Its like paying for the privilege of being single.. 😄.

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    Kanger1
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    Hi Lou1979.

    They really are pricey aren’t they? Was having a look on zoosk and not sure if can justify the cost in case its no good…😆 my friend recommended okcupid not sure what that costs? Guessing the free ones may attract more weirdos too? 🤔 its not easy…

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    Ashbarron
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    I’ve very recently separated and have looked at the usual Tinder and OkCupiod. Not really looking for a proper relationship but it would be nice to chat and meet new people

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    Lou1979
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    Hi Kanger1

    Aren’t they just!!! I am on Match as they had an offer of £5 for the month (I just have to remember to cancel when it ends or I get charged £40 per month!!!) I’ve chatted to a couple of guys but its so expensive to join these sites. I don’t get how single parents can afford to pay them!! lol. I think the free ones do…I met my Ex-husband on POF, so I will never go back to that site!! haha x

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    GirlFriday
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    Hi,

    I have been separated for almost 6 months now and would like some company but I just haven’t got the nerve to try OLD.   I hear so many awful stories (these seem to outnumber the good ones) I just put my phone away again!  The other thing that put me off was watching ‘The Circle’ before Xmas, there was a 50 year old woman on there who catfished some poor 20ish year old bloke and that just made me realise how easy it is to do in this day and age- I have been with my soon to be ex for 23 years so this is all new to me 🙁

    House move first for me (still waiting for that sort of date) man then maybe…!!

    #21077 Report

    Kanger1
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    Lou1979 £40? Blimey! Zoosk is about £10 per month. Randomly girl at my work is getting married to a guy she met on POY, I hope it works out for her 😮

    GirlFriday 23 yrs is a long time to be with someone it does sound like you could just sample a little maybe instead and just chat online just to boost your confidence for when you are ready in the future? I battle with whether its fun or a bit of a weird way to meet a partner 🤔 i have been with my ex for nearly 14 yrs but feel need to for confidence building.

    #21081 Report

    GirlFriday
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    Let me know how you get on Kanger1, you can be the guinea pig 😂 every time I think I might be ready I talk myself out of it.. Think my soon to be ex has knocked the confidence out of me, he swore blind there was no one else but I have proof there was 😕 He lied for almost a year & now I don’t know how to believe anything & he is just vile whenever he emails about the house I wish so never had to hear from him again .. Guess time will heal but it hurts like hell in the meantime 🙄

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    BC_Kid
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    Tried Bumble for a month and not very good. I tried it as it advertised itself as “women make the first move!” It just seemed like people collecting matches (like Pokemon!) and not chatting. Got my money back from Apple 😅

    Just wish I could get a break… been 3 years single and like someone aaid earlier I hate paying a tax to be single😂

    Be nice if Gingerbread had a dating section☺️

     

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