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    Rdf24
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    A few weeks ago I got asked if I was my 5 year olds grandad at school drop off-I’m only 43! Obviously the last 18 months can’t have been kind to me.

    it sounds like you are in a very trying situation singledad0101, but sounds like you’re doing all the right things for your boys. It does get easier as they get older-I promise!

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    singledad0101
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    Hi,

    So you’ve had your lad on your own since he was 3 1/2 yrs old? How has it been for you?

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    Rdf24
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    Oh no-I was just talking about the last 18 months in general! But I have had near on 50/50 custody of my 5 year old and 11 year old for just over a year now. It’s been challenging, especially with lockdown being thrown into the mix, but I have a much better bond with them than I ever had before.

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    singledad0101
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    Its definitely the right thing to do is to have as much involvement as possible, I’ve seen so many milestone moments with my lads. Its been tough but I have to say I’ve loved every minute of it.

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    sirtobi
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    Hello and a good day for all of you,

    always remember, with age comes wisdom, patience and a lot of other riches. Apart from that, if you are a single male, below average income, above 50 years old, with young children, you are most likely to stay single for a very long time, statistically speaking. Of course, there is always the tooth fairy.

    I have two boys, 18 and 11 years old, will be on state pension next year, and I am never asked if I am their father. It doesn’t matter where we are, even if they have all the information, like hospital or school, I am still the granddad. But that doesn’t matter a thing. We get on very well and when we are at athletics, we do Taylorism. We split the tasks into bits, and they do the running and other bits, while I do the officiating. We cycle together and do a lot of walking in our bay. So don’t worry too much about age. Your kids won’t mind very much, and you will enjoy the school run with all those yummy mummies all the more. It was a bit awkward when eldest one went to ballet at the age of seven. Those were two tough years among pushy mums. Anyway, we made a few friends over the years and  youngest one will be in secondary, eldest one of to Uni in September. I don’t think any of them has an actual problem with my age. I compare it to a hunchback. Unpleasant, but not life-threatening. Enjoy the time with them and my best friendships are with other single dads. So try to be on the lookout.

     

    All the best,

    Methuselah

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