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    SmallChildsMum
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    Hi, count me in too please. Have just turned 50!! lone parent to a 12 year old, been on my own with her for 8 years now.  Struggling with the isolation, loneliness, lack of finances due to having changed job a year or so ago is also having a big affect.

    #14225 Report

    Anonymous
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    Hi everyone,

    Have applied to Gingerbread to set up the group.

    Really pleased that there’s a lot of interest!!

    Jamiebear

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    Enna80
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    Thank you Jamiebear!

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    parenting42
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    Hi fipple

    odd combo odd man that I was with!

    its not until now that I look back that this guy I was with was truly an odd guy. I didn’t see the messages throughout my life with him. He put me in a very difficult and complex situation. Not a nice person at all.

    Good to hear from you though 😊

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    parenting42
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    Hi Enna.

    I love hearing suggestions and any advice given to me.

    I love my house but I am very anxious with my ex’s thoughts and stories. I can hear him saying to people “aren’t I a lovely man letting my wife stay in my house to live with her children whilst all I can afford is a gas rage to rent”.

    Sadly, my ex loves to make himself the good cop and I’m the bad cop. So I then get bullied by his family and professionals.

    I have spent three years clearing the house out with his rubbish. I have spent three years clearing up after him.

    We moveed in my house in December 2006 when my eldest was on,y two months old. Not once did we have a clear out. And the only time we had the house decorated was when we moved in 2006.

    About a year after my ex left, I started to move his belongings into one room then into the loft. And there is so much stuff, I have also used the garage.

    I have put little pictures up and changed the children’s bedroom furniture. We have also changed bedrooms. But for some reason it is still stuck in my head that this house is his although we have a joint mortgage. I struggle with getting him out of my mind.

    Thank you for the advice though. 😘

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    parenting42
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    Thank you Jamiebear! X

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    parenting42
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    Thank you Anonymous for the advice on JSA

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    fipple
    Participant

    Thanks for the reply…..and if you ever need any painting & decorating 😉 we can both grab a brush and change the internal scenery  .lol

     

    nvq 2 qualified might i add 😉

     

    if we come across any guns…we can just paint around them …lol

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    parenting42
    Participant

    Let’s take a vote…….

    who thinks fipple and I should decorate my house? 😉

    would anyone else like to join, Enna?? 😉x

    fipple, are you in West Sussex?

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    fipple
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    You’re probably around 2hrs drive away(from Bedfordshire)…so not an impossibility  😉

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    Enna80
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    I’d love to, but still on maternity leave think my boss would be mad if I got caught working somewhere else 😂

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    Doramay
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    Hello please add me too! I’m over 40, mum of one girl. Cheers!

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    katrix
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    I guess at 41 I qualify! Single mum to a 2,6 and 9 year old. Still in the thick of being newly separated but just about keeping it together.

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    Bettyboo73
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    I know it sounds like a silly question but I’m just about to have first solicitor appointment and don’t want to spend it crying (!). Any tips or advice?

     

    Im worried about how it’ll all be and how to keep it together – how have you done it?

     

    thanks

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    katrix
    Participant

    I’ve not got that far yet. Still have that joy to come. However would crying be that bad, its a crappy thing and you have every reason to cry but I get why you might not want to have it on show. Personally I find being angry helps me keep the tears at bay. Get a screw you rage on and walk in there like a queen!

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