Hi, count me in too please. Have just turned 50!! lone parent to a 12 year old, been on my own with her for 8 years now. Struggling with the isolation, loneliness, lack of finances due to having changed job a year or so ago is also having a big affect.
its not until now that I look back that this guy I was with was truly an odd guy. I didn’t see the messages throughout my life with him. He put me in a very difficult and complex situation. Not a nice person at all.
I love hearing suggestions and any advice given to me.
I love my house but I am very anxious with my ex’s thoughts and stories. I can hear him saying to people “aren’t I a lovely man letting my wife stay in my house to live with her children whilst all I can afford is a gas rage to rent”.
Sadly, my ex loves to make himself the good cop and I’m the bad cop. So I then get bullied by his family and professionals.
I have spent three years clearing the house out with his rubbish. I have spent three years clearing up after him.
We moveed in my house in December 2006 when my eldest was on,y two months old. Not once did we have a clear out. And the only time we had the house decorated was when we moved in 2006.
About a year after my ex left, I started to move his belongings into one room then into the loft. And there is so much stuff, I have also used the garage.
I have put little pictures up and changed the children’s bedroom furniture. We have also changed bedrooms. But for some reason it is still stuck in my head that this house is his although we have a joint mortgage. I struggle with getting him out of my mind.
I’ve not got that far yet. Still have that joy to come. However would crying be that bad, its a crappy thing and you have every reason to cry but I get why you might not want to have it on show. Personally I find being angry helps me keep the tears at bay. Get a screw you rage on and walk in there like a queen!
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