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    lucas
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    wife told me 3 weeks ago she wants to separate as she doesn’t love me anymore but i still love & fancy her the same as when we got together 11 years ago we have 2 kids 8 & 6 i am heartbroken don’t know what the future holds & have had thoughts of suicide any advice would be much appreciated

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    Hi Lucas

    I’m Michelle one of the Moderators here.  I’ve left you a message in your account inbox.

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    Michelle

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    Nicki44
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    Hi Lucas

    just take each day as it comes,I totally understand everything you say and have the same feelings sometimes.But the thing that keeps me going and hopefully will you is knowing that you need to keep going for your children as they need you in their life.I get so scared when I think about what the future will hold as my partner left for another woman after being with me for 29 years and we have 3 children.it us one of the hardest thing to deal with,you will have good days and bad days  but you will get through it and days will get brighter

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    lucas
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    thank you only thing keeping me going is my kids she is going to leave me in about £8000 in debt im on minimum wage outgoings are about the same as my wages so just don’t know how i will get by

    #54699 Report

    Nicki44
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    It is so hard and heart breaking when this happens I still can’t understand how my ex can go from living the life he did with me and our children then all of a sudden start a whole new life with someone else over night…I’m in a financial mess too as I have been a stay at home mom for 8 years with the hope of starting work again in September when my youngest starts school but now I’ve got to try and find a job that offers enough money to support my children but ideally working around school hours.Just try not to think of all your problems at once and don’t bottle up your emotions and make sure you talk

    Here if you want to chat

    take care

    #54702 Report

    lucas
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    my sister has been a rock to me telling me we will look at each thing as it arises one step at a time just don’t want my wife to go but i know i can’t stop her we have been through so much together i don’t think she is seeing anybody else but who knows

    #54760 Report

    lovecoffee
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    Hi!

    I just want to share to you that my husband of 7 years left me while I am pregnant. There were also lots of fights in between and pain. I attempted suicide while I was pregnant but couldn’t do it because I will be unfair ro my unborn child. IT IS HARD. Even up to to this day (I just gave birth btw). There was not even closure between us,he just said he did not love me anymore. But I guess you need to talk to your partner properly, sort things through because even people say you do not need closure, it will help you.cope.  And take everything day by day. Pray. Find a new hobby. Talk to your kids, tell them you love them. And one day at a time. What pushes me is that one day there is a reason for everything. BUT i do hope, your wife will change her mind.

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    lucas
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    thank you kids are the only thing keeping me going at the moment don’t think she will change her mind she is head strong & stubborn wish i could switch my feelings off to her but i can’t not yet have tried talking to her in a way but she just says her mind is made up

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