So I’m doing this parenting thing 100% by myself after my partner left when I was 20weeks pregnant and we’ve heard nothing from him since. My beautiful son, now 18mths, isn’t a sleeper so I haven’t had a full nights sleep in about 2yrs (insomnia hit around 16 weeks). I’m trying to hold down a full time job while my son is at nursery which is really tough.
No one I know seems to understand how I feel. I just need a night off. Just one. I feel so tired and alone. People spend so much money at this time of year. I just want some time. Not a lot, just a little. But people have their own lives and their own problems.
Oh sweetheart, lack of sleep is the worse thing I know, my youngest didn’t sleep all night for years, I was beyond exhausted but it will pass. I do remember sitting on the step at 5am crying because I was all spent, I was exhausted and had nothing more to give.
Is there no one at all who can have your child for a night or a day just so you can get some rest? But I get it if the answer is no, I didn’t have a soul to help me either. I eventually (at about 2 years old) did a weaker version of controlled crying, I didn’t leave him to cry but I didn’t interact with him at all above putting him back down to sleep after doing the normal bedtime routine. I didn’t do anything at all that might be entertaining for him. I didn’t talk to him or make eye contact. It did eventually work but I had to stick with it. I think I just bored him to sleep.