Not slept for 18mths, lonely and struggling

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    So I’m doing this parenting thing 100% by myself after my partner left when I was 20weeks pregnant and we’ve heard nothing from him since. My beautiful son, now 18mths, isn’t a sleeper so I haven’t had a full nights sleep in about 2yrs (insomnia hit around 16 weeks). I’m trying to hold down a full time job while my son is at nursery which is really tough.

    No one I know seems to understand how I feel. I just need a night off. Just one. I feel so tired and alone. People spend so much money at this time of year. I just want some time. Not a lot, just a little. But people have their own lives and their own problems.

    I’m really struggling at the moment.

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    Hello Leafy,

    I’m so sorry to hear this. Do you not have any sort of family support or friends? I wish I could help to give you a night off. I know how you are feeling too. X

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    Lack of sleep is horrendous.  The children’s sleep charity is worth looking at. There is also a lady that specialises in sleep and autism who runs special clinics, but can’t remember her name.

    May also be worth exploring carers allowance, DLA, and working less or not at all?


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    If you go down to health shop they have a lavender spray and loton. 

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    I no longer use it but it’s really good

     I also give my daughter fish oil which helps with sleep too. A mashed banana or mashed potato with meal makes them sleepy too

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    Oh sweetheart, lack of sleep is the worse thing I know, my youngest didn’t sleep all night for years, I was beyond exhausted but it will pass. I do remember sitting on the step at 5am crying because I was all spent, I was exhausted and had nothing more to give.

    Is there no one at all who can have your child for a night or a day just so you can get some rest? But I get it if the answer is no, I didn’t have a soul to help me either. I eventually (at about 2 years old) did a weaker version of controlled crying, I didn’t leave him to cry but I didn’t interact with him at all above putting him back down to sleep after doing  the normal bedtime routine. I didn’t do anything at all that might be entertaining for him. I didn’t talk to him or make eye contact. It did eventually work but I had to stick with it. I think I just bored him to sleep.

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