No support for separated fathers getting social housing
14 December 2018 at 4:13 pm #18665
I have separated from my wife and the mother of my two children (6 & 4) nearly 6 months ago, and originally it was intended as a trial. As a result i moved into a shared house with 5 other people as that seemed suitable at the time based on the circumstances. However the separation is now permanent, and whilst i see my children regularly, they can never stay over with me.
I pay my wife child maintenance (£300pm) and with all my other outgoings i simply cannot afford to rent my own place. I have applied for social housing but have been told i’m not eligible because they do not allow people onto the housing list solely for financial reasons, and that my current living situation is suitable for me as an individual.
This means unless i have a dramatic pay rise (i work in the public sector so unlikely) or get a better job with a better wage (easier said than done) then i’m resigned to never being able to have my children stay with me which absolutely breaks my heart. It seems there is absolutely no support for dads in this sort of predicament and i have no idea what else i can do.
Has anyone else got any other advice or guidance that i may be overlooking? Thanks in advance.14 December 2018 at 5:01 pm #18671
Shared housing doesn’t automatically mean that it’s mot suitable for overnights with your children.
eg if you have locks on your private space etc.
Ultimately, unless you receive the child benefit that shows you’re responsible for the children, then you are not entitled to further support (CB is a gateway benefit that opens up your entitlement to other benefits.
My first suggestion would be to consider whether:
9 October 2019 at 10:07 am #31323
- you could afford a one bed flat, with say a single bed for you and bunk bed for the children in an area slightly further out
- you are paying too much maintenance – do you have a mortgage etc?
- if it was the family home, whether your ex wife would be amenable to vacating for some weekends to allow you to have time with them in what was the family home (she is under no obligation)
- to stay at your parents etc to facilitate overnight contact
Hi, I hope by now you’ve got something sorted out, however I am well aware of your problems and how they make you feel. I’m seperated twice with 5 kids to 2 mums. live in Scotland and was advised that with mum’s consent and signed agreement of kid(s) being allowed to stay up to 3 nights a week, this would help strengthen my position for a council house. The government have allowed the people with money (private landlords) to affect the housing market so much that, as usual, those with the least suffer the most. Hope things work out for you.9 October 2019 at 9:31 pm #31358
Have you seeked advice form the likes of shelter or something similar. They might be able to help you. Your situation sound tough. But I’m sure there must be a way to get a home. Good luck10 October 2019 at 4:01 pm #31398
I went to the council told them I needed somewhere for me and my daughter, she shrugged her shoulders and said that because I was not a druggie or alcoholic I was not a priority.
I refuse to ‘share’ a house and let my young daughter stay over, so I have had to rent privately, financially its killing me. I have had to go on a debt management agreement as I couldn’t afford to pay an old loan off. Each month I have nothing left in the pot. I’m dreading the car breaking down.
The only way to become a ‘priority’ is to be made homeless. Then they have to rehome you after 3 months… You have to be made homeless you cant just leave somewhere and say I can’t afford it. Sadly like me, you are a male and the council/government do not care about us. I wrote to my MP who was about as much help as a chocolate tea pot.
Seriously if anyone on here thinks its okay for there children to stay in a shared house of strangers they really need to have a good look at themselves.