No friends and alone (struggling mum)
25 November 2019 at 2:54 pm #33278
Due to my past relationship i have little friends, the ones i have live far away and i rarely get to see them. Now with the breakdown of my relationship i lost friends, and part of my life which im sure people can relate to. I had to reduce my hours at work to support my children and i now get two days off a week. Im struggling with the loneliness being in the house on my own on my days off and in the evening when the children are with their dad. Not having friends to have a coffee with and distact myself with is hard. I feel so alone. Im so low i feel so down!! I feel like any momemt i may break down amd cry without stopping.25 November 2019 at 3:46 pm #33281
Your definitely not alone in feeling the way you do. Have you checked out to see if there’s any local gingerbread groups to you? Here’s a link:
Other options are getting back into a hobby or start one that you’ve been wanting to do. Local charities are also worth looking at as they often need volunteers.
Life doesn’t stay the same so what you’re feeling will pass.
Mark25 November 2019 at 4:17 pm #33284
As Ramblinjon mentioned you can use local group here.
Or you can post a topic about your area that you live on forum to ask others to join for coffee or meet up.
I’m living abroad and unfortunately there is no group or any single parents here to meet.
But you can find best single parents in your town.25 November 2019 at 5:31 pm #33288
Normally this happens when you need to find yourself. Feel what you are feeling accept it and let it pass and rest x25 November 2019 at 8:22 pm #33297
Yeah i have looked into local groups unfortunately there isnt any.25 November 2019 at 8:28 pm #33298
Sorry to hear that Lem,
Like I said I’m out of country but if you don’t mind you can send me message.
I know it’s tough but at least we can talk25 November 2019 at 9:13 pm #33300
I’m on my own in the evenings too. I moved for work when I became a single mum so few friends locally.
It does get better, honestly. Be kind to yourself, pamper yourself, get lots of sleep, lots of fresh air. Renew old contacts and take it slowly x25 November 2019 at 9:54 pm #33302
Thank you all just very hard at moment x26 November 2019 at 3:56 pm #33325
I’m Justine, one of the moderators here at Gingerbread. I’m sorry you are having a difficult time and I am glad that you have been chatting to other parents on the forum. It may be worth your while chatting to a GP if you are feeling tearful for a lot of the time. If you are not registered at your local surgery you can make a visitors emergency appointment.
Here are some other links that may be able to help you when you are feeling isolated and low.
• https://www.giveusashout.org/ TEXT SHOUT 85258 It is a 24 hour 7 day a week 365 day a year crisis text service, delivered by Mental Health Innovations. A team of trained volunteers support anyone in crisis (texter is phone based, volunteer on a computer), and the aim is to help the person in crisis identify coping strategies and get them from a hot place of crisis, to a cool calm place where they can safety plan
• Mind’s Elefriends forum is an anonymous 24/7 forum with an app, to talk about whatever you want to a highly supportive, lively online community: https://www.elefriends.org.uk/
• SANEline – 0300 304 7000 SANE’s freephone helpline is open 16.30 – 22.30 everyday on 0300 304 7000 to talk about how you’re feeling http://www.sane.org.uk/
• Samaritians – 116 123 The Samaritans are open 24/7 365 days a year – call 116 123 to talk to a listening volunteer about anything (they do not advise and signpost) https://www.samaritans.org/
I hope some of this information helps and I wish you well for the future.
Kind regards, Justine26 November 2019 at 9:33 pm #33339
hi lem, where do you live?x26 November 2019 at 10:02 pm #33341
North west27 November 2019 at 2:04 am #33351
recently became a single mum looking for other like minded single mums in Bracknell Reading area