No communication when son goes to dad.

[S.Lee80Participant]

This is my first time on here and I am wondering if any other single parents is going through this. Everytime my son goes to his dad, I get no communication. Our son is 3 and yesterday he went to his dad and I have emailed my ex but he is not replying. I miss our son so much Everytime he is away I hear nothing. I always make myself busy so I don’t think about it but it’s not fair that I don’t get any information. I don’t get face time or calls to speak to our son and it drives me crazy. I would like to know how other parents cope with this and if I should be getting some kind of communication with my son when he is at his dad’s?

[KathymumofoneParticipant]

That’s what happens here too.

My ex collects son, says “see you on Thursday” and then I don’t hear anything. To be fair, when our son is with me, we don’t text his dad except about practical arrangements.

I manage it by making a list of all the things I can’t really do while he is around – redecorating, putting up shelves, gardening, sorting paint scratches on the car – and keep myself busy.

[S.Lee80Participant]

Hi thanks for your reply. We have a court order in place already. He went to his dads yesterday and will be back Monday afternoon. This contact is longer because it is an additional days to the usual weekend contact. The usual weekend contact is Friday 4pm to Sunday midday. I cried so much last night because I am really missing my son. I tried emailing my ex again today asking how our son is and still no reply. It’s so hard for me not knowing if he is ok.

When my ex emails me about how our son is I reply back. I always cooperate and provide information to my ex. However, I don’t get it in return from my ex. Its annoying and frustrating. When I hear other mums say they get messages from their other half or grandparents about their little one and how they get on in the day or going to bed, it makes me jealous that I don’t get anything. Is this how it’s going to be for the rest of my life that my son goes to his dad and I just have to deal with no communication about my son? It really hurts me so much!

 

[S.Lee80Participant]

I’ve been to see many solicitors and I am fed up of repeating myself. We have a court order already and I really would like to change it but I can’t face going to court again. My ex is threatening me apply for court anyway after Christmas, so I will wait to see if he succeeds.

[S.Lee80Participant]

I will try to speak to my son about phoning me when he is at his dad’s but my ex will ignore him and probably make excuses so that he doesn’t have to call me. My ex is not a nice person and he will not cooperate. All I want is to hear his voice or see his little face before he goes to bed. Every time he is away it gets harder and harder. I can’t bare it.

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