Hi all, just looking for some support and advice as I’m a newly so how parent.
Today my (ex-)Partner has left because he wants his life back; the stress of life, myself and having a child is too much.
We began arguing a little more but nothing major, due to stress of work, and myself moaning. It wasn’t really me moaning too much but I do suffer from anxiety as well as feel I am never enough (due to previously failed relationships, and some being violent).
It’s also a little hard to sit by and watch when your (now ex)Partner is sitting on PC most nights from work gaming, prioritising that over his 1 year daughter as she’s trying to show him things…and interact as well as myself.
I do still love him but he has had enough of it all, I just don’t know how to get over the grieving process for myself and mostly my daughter.
I am so sorry Snoapa. You are obviously still in shock. He sounds very selfish and immature and obviously made you feel like you weren’t good enough. My friend who I think is an amazing mother if ever there was one, was equally made to feel just like you do (‘never enough’) and then he suddenly left her for another woman. He is now enjoying a child free, chilled life but you know what? He will lose out on seeing his kids grow up and he will eventually live to regret his decision. If not that he left his wife, but certainly his kids.
It might feel raw right now and you need time to grief, but you will find someone else in time. Your daughter deserves someone who makes her feel like she is important, not a nuisance. Focus your energy and love on your child and eventually on finding love. Don’t waste any more energy on this type of man, he will never change and is not good enough for you. Don’t ever think you are not good enough. Choose the next man more wisely, have self-respect, don’t let yourself be treated badly by anyone ever. Good luck!
My ex partner didn’t do anything with our son all she would do was play games on her phone. Use social media and spend her money on make up and hair products. I was doing everything. (Other serious stuff was happening too). I had to break up with her and then social services got involved and now I have full custody and she doesn’t see him or pay anything.