Hi
Citizens advice is a great start. Off the top of my head, the things you need to consider are;
– council tax reduction as a single person
– working and child tax credits. Apply asap as it’s back dated to when you apply.
– maintenance. If you are amicable you can arrange this between you in the first instance which is by far the best way. Google ‘maintenance calculator’ for an idea on how much he should be paying. Any issues, call the CMS who can do a calculation for you and collect the money but that’s very very slow!
– talk through the divorce process with citizens advice. Depending on your circumstances, you can do much of it yourself to save money on solicitors etc.
– Consider a Parental Plan regarding his access to his children and how you will continue to parent them together. There’s a good one on the caffcass website. It’s not for everyone but is worth looking at.
Most importantly, look after yourself. I was very open and honest with everyone about what had happened and was so glad I was as I’ve had a lot of support and it’s strengthened friendships and kept me sane. If you have family or friends locally, take up any offer of help and support. If you can, get time by yourself, doing something you enjoy as it’ll make you feel better.
It does get easier. I’m 5 months into this and some days are still pretty pants if I’m honest but my daughter and I are settling into a new normal and we’re both doing ok. Life is beginning to look up!
Hope that this helps
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