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    Hello everyone,

    I am hoping that some of you lovely people may be able to help me.

    I am newly separated, my husband has taken our eldest and I have the youngest. I am struggling so much at the moment, it has been described to me that I am going through the grieving process. Only he has not died, so it is so much harder to come to terms with. Obviously, I love him more than I can say – this whole thing is just my worst nightmare.

    He has clearly moved on, in all aspects of his life and I don’t know what I should be doing to protect myself and my child. Someone said that he might try to get custody of them both – is that actually a thing in the UK?

    I have done all the applying for reduced council tax, UC, sorted child maintenance and agreement.

    I am also missing adult conversation so bad! I don’t have many friends and find doing this extremely hard, so looking for advice and friendship to those who feel they are able to offer it.

    Thank you, from a Mama who doesn’t know which way is up at the minute x


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    Not sure about advice but can lend an ear..

    So sorry to hear you going through such a tough time


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    Hang in there! I miss adult conversation a lot at the minute too, especially with lockdown, and few of the activities I had to rely on are up and running yet. It will get better. I also started a book where I write little things in that my son did or said that I love, stuff that we would normally have talked about as a family, so I can go through it with my son sometimes. Otherwise I forget because I don’t talk about it with anyone! It helps a bit I think. I hope this helps. Take care.

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    Alex D: That’s a fab idea.I have a few books that I’ve written stuff in from last few years and reading it years later down the lineis really funny.The kids like it as well but they’re not always sure what I found so funny or clever.Precious memories.I make sure to take a lot of photos as well bc we get so bogged down sometimes it’s easy to forget the good times,so it’s important to have ‘proof’for myself.I find it keeps things in perspective as well.

    Bubbleburst; You must really feel like someone’s died.I cannot begin to imagine how you’re managing with one of your kids gone as well! Unless it’s what you prefer.To me it sounds traumatizing for both you and your younger son.Omg.I really feel for you if that’s any use…❤

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