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    Abbbc66
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    I have a two week old baby, and her dad, has arranged to see her multiple times and then for some reason or another cancelled or just not shown up without any notice.  He hasn’t actually seen her yet.

    I have no idea what to do, do I just keep arranging meet ups with him or do I seek some legal advice.
    I have told him I am seeking advice, but just wondered if anyone has any experience or any advice in this situation.

    thanks

     

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    steve3334
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    hi,

    in this situation I don’t think you should seek legal advice. nobody can force him to see his child. if he doesn’t show up to see child, thats up to him. if you have plans, and he disrupts them by doing n0-shows, you could just ignore him and carry on.

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    Lulublue
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    I had a similar experience, I spent 18months of trying to get my little ones dad to see her, turn up and put her first. I found it exhausting and very frustrating. There’s a lot more to my story and it was very hard, I felt like he was ruining my enjoyment of her and he was stealing that precious time with her, because I was so stressed all the time. In the end I asked him to contact mediation as I couldn’t cope with it anymore, he refused and it’s been over 2 years since he saw her.
    please don’t do what I did and stay in the vicious circle of waiting for him to step up, it almost broke me.
    Steve is right, I looked into legal advice, more to make sure that I was doing the right thing asking him to contact mediation and was told I can’t force him to see her and leaving the ball in his court was the best thing to do. I could have contacted mediation myself, but felt like I’d tried to force him to be a dad for 18 months and he needed to make that move not me.
    later I did arrange a contact centre for him, but he refused that as well.

    it’s hard knowing the other parent won’t put them first, it still hurts now but it does get easier.
    hope that helps a little

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