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    Kelly3
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    Hi

    I am new to this site. I am a mum to 3 lovely children and would just like to meet other single mums and dads and hopefully form friendships.

    #8505 Report

    Empty
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    Well, hello. I have three children. Welcome to Gingerbread.

    #8506 Report

    Kelly3
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    Hello

    Thank you. Where abouts do you live?

     

    #8509 Report

    Empty
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    I’m in London.

    #8511 Report

    Kelly3
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    I am in London too.

    Are you part of one of the groups?

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    Empty
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    No, but I’ve heard they’re good, so you should def check them out.

    #8513 Report

    Kelly3
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    Yes thats what I have heard too.

    How long have you been apart from your husband/wife then?

    #8515 Report

    Empty
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    She left 4 months ago. I have had literally no contact of any sort with the children save a 90 second phone call with the eldest which she interrupted. No phone calls, photos, details of health or school, and neither have the paternal grandparents. When you go from every day to never it… it is like they’ve all suddenly died or been kidnapped. A break-up I could cope with. Infidelity is fine. This behaviour with the children is just cruel.

    #8519 Report

    Kelly3
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    Aww I am so sorry to hear that you are not able to see your children, I don’t think people should use the children as a tool in the relationship break ups. My ex husband had an affair and went off but I still ket my children see him, why is she being like this? Would you not go to court so that they can enable you to see the children? How old are the children?

    #8520 Report

    Empty
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    The kids are 1 boy who is 5 next month and twins who are 2 in late May. I am going to court, just waiting for the paperwork to go thru. Should be around the time of the eldest’s birthday. If you knew her this time last year and then knew what she was like by around October (she started beating me) you wouldn’t believe they were the same person. I think she might be unwell.

    #8521 Report

    Kelly3
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    Aww they are young too and should see both parents. Thats strange isn’t how people change, nothing happened to make her turn? Hope it all gets sorted for you at court.

    #8524 Report

    Empty
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    Well you could say she planned it this way or you could say she just got to the point where she wanted her entire life to change. She worked while I looked after the children but she hated her job. She pushed me to get a job, which I did. Two weeks after getting a job, she quit hers (2 weeks’ notice). Two weeks later she started beating me, so I slept on the sofa. Two weeks later I found out she was secretly looking at other places to live near her parents. Two days later she left and didn’t ever come back. She has legally pushed me into preparing the sale of the house, but hasn’t actually followed through. Four months later she is still living in her parents’ spare bedroom with all three children and won’t even share details as basic as “do they have a dentist?”

    As I say, it’s like a switch has been flicked inside her head. Maybe she wanted to leave for a long time. Maybe she has someone else but doesn’t want it to look like she jumped ship first. I’ve told her it’s ok if she has, but whatever has happened, I must be allowed contact with my children. She never answers.

     

    #8525 Report

    Kelly3
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    Very true sometimes it just doesn’t work out does it which is a shame but if she found someone else or wanted a different life she would of been better just saying instead of punishing you and the children. I hope everything goes well and you get it to court soon and get it all sorted. Have you got a solicitor or are you doing it alone?

    #8526 Report

    Empty
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    I have got a solicitor, but I’m taking her to court alone as actually (I’ve learned a lot in the last six weeks of studying) a solicitor isn’t much help in a family court in this situation because the court actually does want what’s best for the children (not the parents). Solicitors would prove expensive for the same result, but I need a solicitor for related issues, including sale of the house at some point.

    Do you want to take this offline? If you PM me I’ll send you my email or something.

    #8527 Report

    Kelly3
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    I have tried to pm let me know if it has worked as never done it before lol

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