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9 March 2018 at 6:33 pm #8504
I am new to this site. I am a mum to 3 lovely children and would just like to meet other single mums and dads and hopefully form friendships.9 March 2018 at 6:51 pm #8505
Well, hello. I have three children. Welcome to Gingerbread.9 March 2018 at 7:07 pm #8506
Thank you. Where abouts do you live?9 March 2018 at 10:13 pm #8509
I’m in London.10 March 2018 at 9:45 am #8511
I am in London too.
Are you part of one of the groups?10 March 2018 at 9:56 am #8512
No, but I’ve heard they’re good, so you should def check them out.10 March 2018 at 10:49 am #8513
Yes thats what I have heard too.
How long have you been apart from your husband/wife then?10 March 2018 at 12:40 pm #8515
She left 4 months ago. I have had literally no contact of any sort with the children save a 90 second phone call with the eldest which she interrupted. No phone calls, photos, details of health or school, and neither have the paternal grandparents. When you go from every day to never it… it is like they’ve all suddenly died or been kidnapped. A break-up I could cope with. Infidelity is fine. This behaviour with the children is just cruel.10 March 2018 at 7:36 pm #8519
Aww I am so sorry to hear that you are not able to see your children, I don’t think people should use the children as a tool in the relationship break ups. My ex husband had an affair and went off but I still ket my children see him, why is she being like this? Would you not go to court so that they can enable you to see the children? How old are the children?10 March 2018 at 7:41 pm #8520
The kids are 1 boy who is 5 next month and twins who are 2 in late May. I am going to court, just waiting for the paperwork to go thru. Should be around the time of the eldest’s birthday. If you knew her this time last year and then knew what she was like by around October (she started beating me) you wouldn’t believe they were the same person. I think she might be unwell.10 March 2018 at 7:45 pm #8521
Aww they are young too and should see both parents. Thats strange isn’t how people change, nothing happened to make her turn? Hope it all gets sorted for you at court.10 March 2018 at 7:56 pm #8524
Well you could say she planned it this way or you could say she just got to the point where she wanted her entire life to change. She worked while I looked after the children but she hated her job. She pushed me to get a job, which I did. Two weeks after getting a job, she quit hers (2 weeks’ notice). Two weeks later she started beating me, so I slept on the sofa. Two weeks later I found out she was secretly looking at other places to live near her parents. Two days later she left and didn’t ever come back. She has legally pushed me into preparing the sale of the house, but hasn’t actually followed through. Four months later she is still living in her parents’ spare bedroom with all three children and won’t even share details as basic as “do they have a dentist?”
As I say, it’s like a switch has been flicked inside her head. Maybe she wanted to leave for a long time. Maybe she has someone else but doesn’t want it to look like she jumped ship first. I’ve told her it’s ok if she has, but whatever has happened, I must be allowed contact with my children. She never answers.10 March 2018 at 8:02 pm #8525
Very true sometimes it just doesn’t work out does it which is a shame but if she found someone else or wanted a different life she would of been better just saying instead of punishing you and the children. I hope everything goes well and you get it to court soon and get it all sorted. Have you got a solicitor or are you doing it alone?10 March 2018 at 8:12 pm #8526
I have got a solicitor, but I’m taking her to court alone as actually (I’ve learned a lot in the last six weeks of studying) a solicitor isn’t much help in a family court in this situation because the court actually does want what’s best for the children (not the parents). Solicitors would prove expensive for the same result, but I need a solicitor for related issues, including sale of the house at some point.
Do you want to take this offline? If you PM me I’ll send you my email or something.10 March 2018 at 8:17 pm #8527
I have tried to pm let me know if it has worked as never done it before lol