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    Alimc
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    My husband left us in December to pursue his participation in Alcohol and drug misuse. Struggling with explaining to kids why he has not contacted them especially for my daughter’s birthday!

    would really appreciate any advice on how to get them through this and if anyone knows of any support out there to help with dealing with the reasons why he is doing what he is doing.

    #22385 Report

    Khello
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    Hello, I think its an issue that he has with him self , and will not realise how he herts u and the kids as he needs this to self medicate , so sorry for this happening to u, there is a book called u can heal ur life it may help u x

    #22398 Report

    Hi AliMc

    I’m sorry you and your family are experiencing this.  It sounds like its a very tough time.  I am sending you a personal message which will contain some signposting for you.

    Take care

    Justine

    #22404 Report

    Alimc
    Participant

    Hi Justine

    thanks for this but could you send me the private message again, I deleted it by mistake.

    #22414 Report

    Hi Alimc

    No worries.  That’s something I have done before.  I have kept a copy so am sending it to you now.

    Justine

    #22420 Report

    Karensmith0
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    Hi. Id avise to look into the 12 step programme. Its a programme for all addictions. If you google narcotics annonymous, your local group meeting will be listed. Good luck. I have been there being the one with the addiction. So i know how devastating the affects can have on loved ones. Good luck. Xx

    #22421 Report

    Karensmith0
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    I wouldnt be too honest. The less they know the better but at the same time, they need to know that its not their fault. Maybe explain what addiction is as briefly as you can and how it is an illness. Good luck. Xx

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    Karensmith0
    Participant

    Sorry i had read the post wrong to start with, hence the first reply. X

    #22424 Report

    Alimc
    Participant

    Thanks for the advice. This isn’t the first time he has left through his drinking, I have explained to the kids about addiction and how it is an illness. I do have problems with understanding though why he hasn’t bothered contacting his kids for 7 weeks now and think about why it is doing to them! Wouldn’t knowing he had them make him think about trying to stop and get well?

     

    #22427 Report

    Khello
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    Ur right should change for his kids but hes too addictied so not thibking right , its not fare on u or ur kids , i hope ur ok

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