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    Been a single parent for around 3 weeks now. Money is okay as I work full time but struggling with childcare as son is 3 and his dad cant/won’t do drop offs. I’m struggling to keep on top of everything like housework/shopping, is there any easy wins I’m missing?

    Also I’m worried about my sons emotional reactions. He doesn’t seem to miss his dad at all, hasn’t asked for him and if he sees him clings to me. He asks for his half siblings as misses them but never for his dad and doesn’t mention him much. Is that all normal? I’m hoping its his age and it’s just an adjustment.

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    I know you state money is ok, but have you checked with the Universal Credit calculator if you might be entitled to it? If you are, even if it is only a little bit, it gives you access to the childcare element, there are limits but you can claim back up to 85% of your monthly childcare costs and that includes summer holidays! Just make sure that the child care you use is OFSTED registered. I know UC gets a bad rep but for me it has worked well as my salary goes up and down but when I needed it my childcare (bar 15%) was covered! Any maintenance you receive is not included in the calculations, if you are not getting maintenance contact CMS asap as it is not back dated!

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    Hi Pleaseaddcaffine

    I’m one of the Gingerbread moderators.  If you’d like advice about any issues such as benefits, you can ring our helpline on 0808 802 0925.  Here’s a link to further details

    If you’d like to talk about parenting and your child’s emotions, you might want to ring Family Lives on 0808 800 2222


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