My husband has just left me and our 8 year old son just before Christmas. He’s been having an affair with a woman he met while working abroad. It’s been going on for months. I’m devastated and don’t think I will ever get over this. We’ve been together for 15 years. I’ve just joined this forum as I have no other single mum friends and I just needed to chat to someone who was going through the same thing. At the moment I feel like my life is over. I have no family to fall back on for support. Hope to get chatting to people on here. Christmas has been so hard and everyone all celebrating the new year tonight is not helping.
Christmas and New year can definitely be tough for us single parents, I still struggle with it now and I split with my boys mum years ago. Having been in a couple of relationships over the years made it easier but havnt been in one for a few years now and it’s definitely hard, this year my boy has been visiting his mum a lot which has allowed me to work (I’m working tonight!) Which has helped but having no one to come home to has not been easy.
Your life is definitely not over, it’s just changed in direction and you need to allow yourself time to adjust. There are loads of supportive and caring folk here so you’ve come to the right place. Hang in there….your going to be ok.
So sorry to hear this. Your life definitely isn’t over. I know it feels insurmountable to start with. I felt completely poleaxed.
concentrate on your little one, and on practical things like agreeing bills and sorting access. to start with until you get your “balance” back. Ramblin’ Jon is right, Don’t expect too much of yourself, take it slowly.x
Thanks for replying. We’ve managed to get some finances agreed although it’s still all going through the solicitor etc. I’m just very emotional at the moment and hopefully as time goes on things will get easier x