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    Jen
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    Hi , just want to get advice but I think I already know what I have to do !
    lost my partner to alcoholism over 6 years ago been through the mill but though I was getting back on life’s track again . I met a man 2 years ago he works away 2 weeks home and 2 weeks at work I thought I had ideal situation as I still had my independence. I have 2 children still at home 19 and 12 . My partner has a boy of 17 . He was honest with me and said he doesn’t want to share homes in the near future . I was hurt at first because I thought that would be nice to have a family unit again obviously not straight away but down the line .
    anyway we got in a little rountine and it seem to work he stayed at mine one day then stayed at his home next day and so on . But ……. as time as gone on he has started drinking more and the more he drinks I’ve noticed he gets argumentative just over little things like my daughter being too needy at her age and the way we treat our dog . Really all I’m trying to say is this a red light for me and my family we don’t want to have to go through what we went through last time . Any advice . I think I am just sounding off . Maybe I’m being a little paranoid. I don’t know . What are peoples thoughts .

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    Andy0923
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    Hi good morning, only you know the situation and if its right or wrong for you and you’re family. But it sounds like you’ve already seen things you aren’t happy with which you aren’t willing to accept. These things will only become more apparent as time goes on. It depends if you’re willing to ask him to look at how he is been and willing to change that for you.

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    Jen
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    Thanks for your response. I think I am afraid of losing the friendship of him because without drink he’s lovely .

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    Andy0923
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    Do you think if you was to ask him and voice your concerns about his drinking he would take on board what you have to say?  It would be a matter of respect for eachother.

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    Jen
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    Thanks again , there is only one way to find out .

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    steve3334
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    hi, maybe you can talk to him about his drink problem and get counselling. last thing you want is him being drunk and posing danger to you and kids.

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