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19 November 2020 at 4:38 pm #45944
hi everybody im new on here. im a single mum of 4 and one off my children is blind and autistic.19 November 2020 at 4:54 pm #45945
Hello neenee87 I’m also new on here today. Sounds like a big family you are raising! How are you finding it?
I’m solo mum to a 10yr old lad, his school has closed again for 10 days and i’m doing my best but my mind is elsewhere and I worry about how he is affected.
I’ve been thinking about all the other single parents out there and wanted to reach out…bit of solidarity i guess!20 November 2020 at 5:38 am #45957
hi beckaka at times it can be hard but we are a team, my youngest can be a struggle but you just keep going.
Its hard times but you have to keep strong and hope the situation improves. my kids school just seems to have year groups closed if a case is highlighted.
It can be hard if single parents dont have a support, i had to move away from family so its just me and my kids in a new city.20 November 2020 at 6:47 am #45959
Hi neenee87, welcome! I’m single dad, one boy.21 November 2020 at 6:53 am #46021
hi liolint aww how old is he?. Thanks for the welcome21 November 2020 at 7:30 pm #46040
Hi, neenee87, just wanted to welcome you, I am relatively new. I have found it nice to be on here, it’s reassuring to know that there are others out there, that have experienced similar things. I also have 4 children, my oldest has ADHD, my middle one has dyslexia, although I was in a marriage, my husband never wanted to get involved. It is hard work, I can sympathise, but you do get through it, hang in there.21 November 2020 at 8:10 pm #46042
hi julie123 thank you for the welcome
its nice knowing you aint the only one, im too a single mum and my kids dads were never much help. I had to move away from my ex and leave family far away, its hard but i was the right thing to do.
im sure your doing an amazing job with your kids and its his loss. Its you they will respect hun x22 November 2020 at 11:04 pm #46090
I think you’re right there, my daughters say that it upsets me, more than them, that there father has turned his back on them. They agree that he was never really there for them growing up. It’s a shame that you haven’t got your family around, I don’t know what I would have done if I didn’t have my mum. I was away from mine for 6yrs,when we moved from London, having a young family, with no support system is very difficult, so I know where you’re coming from.. If you want to have a chat, I am happy to. Julie23 November 2020 at 3:14 pm #46121
i believe it does upset us mums more because its the disappointment of us being let down, we give our all to the men we are with . when the men decide to abandon our children it does have a impact on us more. my kids have grown up without there dad and when he did come into there live he couldnt keep to agreements and my kids have now decided to walk from him. my youngest dad wasnt much help either and caused me so many problems i had to go into a womens aid refuge to be safe.
its hard as i have no support system from family and i dont really have any friends, i lost my friends due to what my ex was doing. so im in a new city and its just me and kids. i speak to my mum everyday on phone but its not the same as face to face.
your girls will give you more respect for not giving up on them and remember its you making the memories.
same to you hun if you ever need a chat x23 November 2020 at 10:31 pm #46147
Hi, Neenee87, sorry to hear that you had to go into a refuge, that must have been very hard. How are things now? Have you managed to find somewhere nice and safe? Is there any help you can get, with your youngest, so you can have some respite (subject to covid) when mine were little, I got some help with Homestart. They are volunteers, they allocate one to you, they can h with shopping housework, or just someone to talk to. Julie24 November 2020 at 1:50 pm #46182
hi julie123 yeah things are settling for us, kids have made loads of friends and managed to get my youngest into a special needs school. I get support from caring4life, i used to have a home start worker back where im from they are really good.
do you have homestart involved with you24 November 2020 at 2:48 pm #46185
Hello! We are glad to see you here. It’s great that you share your experience and knowledge, I am sure many people will be interested in it. I have two sons and trying to do my best rising them. I hope to be a support for them now and in the future. Thank you for sharing your story.24 November 2020 at 7:15 pm #46201
hi renata L
thanks for the welcome
aww how old are they?25 November 2020 at 10:59 am #46219
Hi! They are 3 and 12 years old25 November 2020 at 4:29 pm #46239
wow thats a age gap. are you coping well