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    Shellieoates27
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    hi!

     

    Im currently looking for a bit of guidance, current situation is:

     

    i have a two year old son and left his father over 18months age, I left the house and moved back in with my parents until four months later I moved out again into a home etc with my son. I then started a new relationship and been happy for a year now (I went to uni with the guy so known him 7 years so he’s not a stranger) we don’t live together and he doesn’t support my son financially. His biological dad still lives in our old home and says he has dated a few women but nothing serious.

     

    I am looking to move in the next six months, no more than 30 mins away from his dad, and he’s began with the threats that he won’t be impressed and won’t be “going along with it” if I try and Send him to a school near my house and wouldn’t be dropping him off if it’s far away etc.

     

    so far I have not claimed CSA or had a penny from him, I can only work part time due to childcare costs as if I worked full time I’d pay more for that!

     

    I have my son every weds thurs and Friday full days just me and him as I work the other days when his dad has him. And it was his dad that demanded this agreeement.

     

    im looking to start court proceedings as I want to be the one who makes decisions of where he goes to school etc as my ex will very much use my son as a way to get to me and annoy me and I’m the complete opposite I have my sons best interest at heart and even now when I drop him off he screams and says he doesn’t want to but I still make him go.

     

    im just after some advice really as I’m petrified and my current partner seems to think “mums always win” and I feel that’s a very old myth! As I’m scared he will get sole custody because he works full time and earns twice the amount I do!

     

    Please any any advice welcome!

     

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    Shellieoates27
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    I have him 3/7 one week then 4/7 the next we alternate weekends so it’s equal.

    When we split he demanded that he has him Sunday night, Monday night and Tuesday and I have him weds Thursday Friday and every other Saturday. So he wouldn’t be the resident parent? As it’s the same technically. I changed my days at work once he had demanded those days so I was with my boy on my days off.

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    Shellieoates27
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    I have him 3/7 one week then 4/7 the next we alternate weekends so it’s equal.

    When we split he demanded that he has him Sunday night, Monday night and Tuesday and I have him weds Thursday Friday and every other Saturday. So he wouldn’t be the resident parent? As it’s the same technically. I changed my days at work once he had demanded those days so I was with my boy on my days off.

     

    Ideally when I move I want to be able to have custody to make the big decisions like school etc as I was under the impression that’s how custody worked.

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    Shellieoates27
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    I think I’ve got enough info thanks

    #7541 Report

    Shellieoates27
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    And I don’t appreciate you insinuating that it’s selfish and for my own reasons to satisfy me.

     

    there are underlining reasons which ARE in the best interest of my son!! That I won’t be plastering over an Internet forum.

     

    So maybe think a little next time before making comments that make another mum feel like crap

    #7544 Report

    Shellieoates27
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    You clearly think you’re superior to others it’s clear in the way you write. Now please don’t bother responding

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    CastleDad
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    solo gave you genuine information, if you do not want it don’t ask for it.

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    Anon
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    Hi can I jump in? I think people are missing the point. It’s not the advice given that’s a problem it’s the hostility and how it’s delivered. Not helpful

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