New here hope someone can help

[Wingnut73]

hi all, I’ll start my story and try and keep it brief.

my husband left me 4 years ago saying he was unhappy, with 2 kids. He left me with marital debt and mortgage and told me what CM he’d pay. He moved in with a work colleague 6 months later and had a baby with her a year later then divorced me. Whenever I have tried to sort out finances he’s put a block on it, despite me paying out for a solicitor.

since he left I have never blocked access to our kids ( now 12 and nearly 15) but the last year they have told their dad they are not staying.

last week I got an email at work from him informing his employment was coming to an end and so he would not be paying Cm until if/ when he would get another job. I have worked really hard to get myself and the kids financially straight and now he has withdrawn Cm which I relied on. I am in despair over his cruelty towards me and his complete lack of understanding at how he thinks I will manage with the kids, whilst he is living his new life ….anyone been in this situation who can offer support.

[Woo]

New here also, welcome. Didn’t want to read and run. Hopefully someone will be along soon with some more info. I guess he would be asked to pay the nominal pittance by child mai ten rather options.

[Kathymumofone]

If your ex has a new partner & another child, I imagine his new woman will be pressuring him to get another job quickly because she is in the same situation as you.

Did he choose to give up his job or was he made redundant?

[Wingnut73]

He has a new thing going…overlap between our marriage and her. To be honest I am guessing when they were sorting their finances she probably ‘pushed’ for stop paying the ex wife.

 

i have no idea where he lives ( won’t tell me, just ignores when I ask) and no idea whether he left or got any redundancy…just said his job was not extended so would not be employed. Not good enough

[Kathymumofone]

Are you in the UK? Have you put a CMs claim in?  They can track him down via his tax return and would know if he is paying income tax, in which case they could deduct payments from his salary for you.

If he isn’t working now, they’ll be informed as soon as he gets a new job.

[Wingnut73]

Yup have contacted CM and got another solicitor ( sigh) ….just can not get over his behaviour. Kids don’t want to stay with him and now are asking me to tell him….don’t know what to do with latter…I’ve always told them to tell him.

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