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    I stumbled across Gingerbread when looking for financial support.

    I made the decision to separate from my husband after 15 year together and 12 years married. We have two small boys.

    We are trying counselling, but to be honest, it is just showing me how much I’ve been hurting all the years through all that I/we have been through and I feel I want to start a fresh.

    However, my mind is in two places – i worry far too much about what he thinks and feels, and struggle to put myself first in all of this, I don’t know if I can do it on my own 🙁

    Has anyone else been in a similar situation that could offer some advice? I feel broken and lost and not sure I have the strength to be strong and not let him talk me around anymore.



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    Hi there, so sorry to read what you’re going through. Sounds really tough and emotionally exhausting.

    I’ve not been in the same situation as I’m widowed but have friends who are divorced.  They all went through similar things as you and I can honestly say each of them is in a much better, happier place now.

    Stay focused one just 1or 2 thing’s, don’t take on too much and be kind to yourself. You will get through this.

    Perhaps write a list of what you want and why, then keep it in your purse or bag. Whenever you doubt yourself, just take a look to remind yourself.

    Stay focused and stay strong.


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