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    Bazzlem
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    Wanderful, in what situations did you get offers of dating ?

    #39699 Report

    Waunderful
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    @Bazzlem

    From single acquaintances of mine. Seeing as it’s lock down not like I’m going to meet anyone new haha! Are you feeling more positive since you first posted?

    #39714 Report

    Bazzlem
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    Not really still feeling down and feel like no one will be interested in me because I have a kid.

    #39733 Report

    Waunderful
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    Why’s that?

    #39763 Report

    Bazzlem
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    Because women will see my son as baggage.

    #39767 Report

    Waunderful
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    Thats not true. It may feel true but it isn’t. Women don’t famously hate children, quite the opposite.

    Fourpages of replies is a lot. You’ve had some great advice, maybe re-read it and talk to a doctor if you’re feeling depressed. Times are hard now it’s easy to get down and struggle to think positively.

    Good luck.

    #39811 Report

    Dustypink
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    I feel the same, I feel to old to be starting again, and with children it only makes it harderany stories of meeting someone new, after starting over? X

    #39812 Report

    Dustypink
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    I don’t see a man with children as baggage x

    #39833 Report

    Jsmoove
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    Bazz don’t rush into the dating scene to fast mate,take your time,get to know the person first,as on paper they may be perfect but in reality they may not,don’t settle for the first person who shows an interest,because the next one could be perfect,in reality some women like men with kids and some don’t goes both ways,you don’t want history repeating itself,remember is that person good enough for you and your child that’s the mindset u should have,and just make sure you are ready to date emotionally as women can see if you are or not

    #39841 Report

    Mimic
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    I am single mum to and I have exactly the same fears

    #39848 Report

    Jo83
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    @Bazzlem

    I am also a single dad (37) with an 8 yrs old Child, for almost 2 years now… I know exactly how you feel, but it will get better over time. You can’t just change these feelings or your thinking feom one day to another, it takes a long time, and it’s a not easy. Having real friends surrounding you and talking to them helps a lot. Yes… you are ging to spend most of your time with your child, and you will feel like there is no way out from this misery, but in relity it will turn you into a superhero robocop parent, and an extremely valuable person. You won’t be alone forever, there will be someone for you, trust me. And believe in yourself!

    #39851 Report

    Dustypink
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    @Bazzlem,

    You speak so much sense, your completely right of course, to many of us are in a rush to meet someone / feel wanted again.

    #39873 Report

    Bunnyhop
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    You shouldnt worry about what other people will think of you having a kid. Take the pressure off yourself to date and find love again and just focus on yourself and your kid/kids. If/when you do decide to date again I would say to anyone who is worried that a potential new partner might see your kid as baggage – if thats the case then they aren’t worth wasting your time on. Plenty of people out there, both men and women, who aren’t put off by kids at all. But at the end of the day your kid should be the priority above any potential new partner.

    Gp services are still available to you if you feel you are struggling with your mental health. There’s no shame in asking for help and help is available to you if you need it.

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