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    E1976
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    Im single now and I have a child I will be careful who I date if I ever do a child is a blessing tbh and naybe there actually is someone out there who can respect and love both of us. If not I will be alone and surround my child with love x

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    E1976
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    Jsmoove maybe I can get to this mindset one day I think as well you have to recognise your own standards and not fall into the same traps ..

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    Redhead12
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    I feel like this!
    I’m 33 with four children three who have special needs!

    i had  been with my husband since school so 20years later I’m now wondering who the heck and how the heck can I find or will I find someone else!?! “/

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    Bazzlem
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    I feel like crying every night that I wont meet anyone else again.  I don’t have any motivation to get out and about to meet people.  How do I get the up and go to get out and about?

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    Bazzlem
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    Anyone got any other comments to try and make us feel better?

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    Louwhit1
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    I think at the moment while the country is going through all this stuff it’s hard for any of us to have any get up and go but wile will all come out of it so much stronger in lots of ways. You need to try and remember to stay positive which I know is a lot easier said than done, if another person sees your children as baggage then in my eyes they are not good enough for you. I’m sure it’s a case of small steps, even just talking to people on here really helps me.

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    Bazzlem
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    It’s my mindset that’s really getting me down.  I know lots of people who have kids and have met someone but I’m scared that it won’t happen for me.  Being a single dad sucks 🙁

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    Louwhit1
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    Being a single parent is extremely hard, I was with someone and it took me a while to realise they were no good for me and then this makes it hard to trust again. Dating was so much easier when younger lol

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    Bazzlem
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    It was.  I want to be younger again.  I feel like I’ve ruined my life being a single parent.

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    Dorota
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    But you cannot turn back time. What’s done is done. I sometimes think, in my lowest of the low, that i wish i could never be that stupid to marry and then have kids with this man I didn’t even trust after all. But i did. So now I have to suck it up and live with it and find new ways of living. As much as depression is eating me up and not allowing me to fully enjoy even my motherhood, i have to remember that i have to put all this behind. For my children. And they are the most important people in my life. Nothing else matters. I don’t care at this point, if im going to find someone or not, i am focussed on them.  I don’t want to sound harsh, but why are you so desperate to be with someone ? I mean, don’t get me wrong, nobody wants to be alone forever. But after a breakup the best thing you can do is to learn and accept to live with yourself only. And when you comfortable to be on your own, and do things on your own, you will meet someone. Because you can not because you have to.

    Hope that make sense.

    I repeat it again – you are still young. Please don’t make me feel like a granny 😉

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    Bazzlem
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    When you see a parent out and about with their child how do you know if they are a single parent?

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    backontheshelf
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    Is that the start of a joke???

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    Jsmoove
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    Bazzlem you need to heal first mate,concentrate on your self and child you are putting to much pressure on yourself,don’t stress so much about finding someone,you need to find happiness in yourself first,and take one step at a time,if u rush this process u will jump in a relationship with the wrong person,enjoy being with your child because u can’t get back those years,good things come to those who wait,but u need to be independent first out of your comfort zone

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    Louwhit1
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    We don’t walk around with I’m single badges on, although could make life easier lol

    I agree with jsmoove, it sounds like you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself to meet someone. You have to be happy with yourself and your life before you can open your heart to someone.

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    Lovingmummy
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    Hi, I totally agree, do not rush into relationship until you learn how to be by yourself and with your child. I’m saying this from my own experience… I got divorced quite a few years ago due to my husband’s serious addictions, selfishness,  and low interested in family life. I was left alone with my child and felt completely lonely and hopeless… So after a couple of years I started dating someone who I met online, and ended up in mental abusive relationships! I was convinced that a woman with a child will not go far, that I’m useless without him,  and etc.  So here we come, I’m single again, blaming myself about every single step I’ve done… But now I’m learning that loving myself is a key, reading self-help books, enjoying time with my child. I would advise take it easy, enjoy the moment, do not think that you have to search for someone here and now, or asap. Give yourself time, the other half will come when you will be ready for the relationship, and to be ready you have to be strong as a person.

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