Need housing advice!
5 October 2020 at 8:01 am #44555
Me and my ex broke up in January she moved in with her mum for 3 months then came back to stay with me during the lockdown. She is subletting a room from me currently, she wants to move out but she can’t afford housing. She wants me to evict her as to make her homeless and entitled to help but I’m concerned about doing this as will this look bad on me if there are future problems as I’d technically be making her and my son (18 months) homeless. Has anyone got any experience with this.
Any input or advice would be appreciated. Thanks11 October 2020 at 8:09 am #44718
Oh my god…. so glad I read this. Don’t evict her with covering both your arses as to why if it ever comes up for you and read below to see why. Also her regarding the radical need because benefits are just not cutting it!
It’s just passed legislation and is super illegal – so she would be compensated but only after you were successfully investigated or at least identified as being on the list to fine when they want to claw back what it cost the government to pay her extra for it.
She’s on the right-ish track and I admire both your radical thinking but you might need to call UC helpline and ask how the eviction thing is even granted? If it even is?
Much easier ways – discretionary housing payment?11 October 2020 at 8:18 am #44719
Ironically as private and full tenant she would get much more than as a sublet anyway? Or is she working? I’ve been where you are it’s hard I know but you have a baby- just be careful cos you have all the risk if UC coach ticked the social services needs criteria and then becomes uncomfortable to answer and she could end up on the benefit fraud register.
I know it’s hard to hear but we are all skint and just have to get smaller houses, go arrears on the gas bills and eat pot noodles the weeks that you might want to go to lunch! Join the club! And saying that as a single mum with 2 year old boy! My ex locked us out when my son was 1 years old. Faking that situation is a rare one that just doesn’t happen much and you might end up with the old bill round or with a court summons… tell her to evict herself and join the reality race of separated sisterhood!11 October 2020 at 10:31 am #44726
Thanks for the responses, it’s not that I’m concerned about the money I’ll have if she leaves it’s just I want her to be able to afford somewhere to live as she will be main caregiver for our son until he gets a bit older (still breastfeeding etc) The thing is this can’t be a long term solution living together as obviously we will both need to get our own lives at some point. I’m happy not to have a life for now but she’s desperate to leave.
Becksandb what has just passed legislation and is illegal?11 October 2020 at 10:49 am #44727
I have such a massive respect for you with how dignified and appropriate you are being. You guys are clearly going to make being separated co-parents work like superstars as you care about the right things which is each other despite no longer romantically attached and placing your baby right where any parent should- which is first!
Forgive my edgy tone- I’ve been investing my life and time and doing a lot of work on the rights of children within financial abuse cases before the courts as part of the wider domestic abuse issue and recent bill. My life changed the day during lockdown when during separation and broke and living with my parents I asked him if he could let us home or help with rent as my father was branded high risk and to shield and in a one bathroom house we took doctors advice to give him space. He had two other properties he could have moved into, one his and empty and one the annex cottage at his parents place and he refused to let me and our son who was 18 months have a roof over our head during the start of lockdown when you couldn’t even walk to the outside bins and back! So it’s close to my heart! Ive never had the guts to go claim squatters rights maybe your lady would! 🙂 I’ll give her the address!! Im playing a longer game but one that will hopefully mean no man can do that when it most matters. Broke my heart and soul! So you guys will be fine!! 18 months is a full on age too! Maybe pull different shifts when you spend time at the house maybe? That said I’m surviving on UC in a very expensive postcode so I’m curious how she’s so short to be at least comfortable? Any chance she’s done it wrong? I had to get help for mine? It’s hard! Just truly know it’s usually just about possible With some compromises- so I just eat less, my other friend bigger house but no sexy postcode privileges and she keeps a full freezer. It’s a priority thing but shouldn’t be a complete no go if she’s desperate? Have you spot checked her calculation? I corrected a friends and it won an extra £800 a month in a simple error?