Need advice with kids violence
21 May 2021 at 8:44 pm #54530
I’m struggling with my 2 older children 16 Yr old girl has adhd and odd, 12 Yr old son no diagnosis yet. They can’t be in the same room together, they swear and use violence against each other and they also attack me. My son will hurt his younger brother even when in the bedroom at night to the point where I have to phone police as he loses his temper so quick and won’t calm down he will destroy the house, break windows, hurt anyone, and threatens to kill people. I have had the police out so many times and nothing changes I’m at breaking point I suffer with my mental health and I have hit rock bottom and can’t get better till kids get help. I got no support at all with them and I just don’t know what to do anymore22 May 2021 at 6:16 am #54546
Hi Kazob, have you been on the website ‘Additude’. It’s American but an excellent resource with loads of articles and advice on ADHD, ODD and management strategies.
Is your oldest on medication. Sounds so difficult for you. I read an online e book called The Explosive Child which I found pretty eye opening. It talks through a whole new approach to speaking to and dealing with children who are head strong and at times explosive, including kids with ADHD. Some don’t believe this but removing foods and drinks with artificial orange colours yellow and red in particular has been shown in studies to reduce levels of hyperactivity and reactivity in ADHD. Not easy with a 16 year old but I’d remove as much of that from the home as you can.
Something outside of you for your kids, the oldest in particular would probably help you alot. Somewhere he can go to give you a break and some emotional support for him. Barnados healthy minds are great, mentors via the school or local authority are another resource. Finally, would he be willing to speak to someone like a school / college counselor. Rope in as much help as you can.22 May 2021 at 9:31 am #54550
Ive not heard of that website before but I will defo have a look. I have the explosive child book it’s quite interesting but everything I try with my older 2 just doesn’t work. My oldest she is 16 she refuses to go to my mums even when she feels herself getting angry she would rather lash out she is on meds for adhd but we looking at changing for the 4th time as they have no effect. My boys go to their dad’s once a week for 2 hours he won’t have them anymore as he can’t cope with them. I tried asking for help from social they don’t want to know I’m waiting for an appointment for a counsellor for my 12 year old I even tried getting myself admitted to hospital but they said I’m better off at home22 May 2021 at 9:43 am #54552
There are some homeopathic remedies out there. I know parents who have tried different medication that didn’t work .TV and what they eat plays a part in behaviour.some children are allergic to these addituves .sweets , fizzy drinks contribute to their behaviour. I also use it works spray when my child starts playing up.
I found that home cooked meals changed my daughter s behaviour
Go on line and get some fish oil and put it in their food or smoothie s. Holland and Barrett has ones that do not smell of fish and are odourless23 May 2021 at 12:27 pm #54583
I thought about foods etc he doesn’t drink fizzy pop, he doesn’t eat much at all, he lives on jacket potato, chicken and chips. He won’t eat fruit or veg or anything with sauces. He is a nightmare to actually feed. I do alot of homemade meals but with him it’s a waste of time as he won’t eat them.