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    Han234
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    Hi Everyone,

    I really need some help! I have a almost three year old boy, who in recent days has started crying for his “daddy” he has only ever seen him twice when he was smaller, i dont know how to explain to him that his dad isnt about and dont think he will be 😔 breaks my heart and makes me cry everytime he says it. Any suggestions would be great, TIA

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    milagrogirl
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    Oh how painful. Can you think of anything that sparked this?

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    Han234
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    Nothing i can think of, he calls for daddy and nanny, he sees his nan on a regular basis as she has him while i work somedays. It could just be hes picked it up from nursery i dont know.

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    Once you interact with other children/families, children will begin to realise their differences. Sounds like he’s voicing a notion he’s just become aware of. There will be lots of questions like this, including things like “why don’t girls have willies?” etc. It’s interesting that you mention when he was “smaller”. I haven’t seen two of my kids since they were 1, until just after they were 2. I was convinced they wouldn’t remember me but they did and seemed really excited to see my face again. That fair broke my heart and proves that children from a VERY young age can remember and are aware much more than we all think. Ask him if he wants to talk about Daddy and then gradually introduce the idea that some children don’t have daddies and some don’t have mummies who live with them for lots of different reasons. Drip-dripping these notions over time will enable him to realise he’s both special and normal and certainly not less loved for being different to some other children he knows.

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    Han234
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    Thank you, he does have lots of friends at nursery who have both mummy and daddy. His dad only messages me every couple of months for me and not his son which really grates me! I dont want him to think he doesnt have a dad but at the sametime his dad isnt around and isnt much of a pleasant person. I have pictures of his dad, so i could tell him but then theres the question of why he isnt around

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