Need a vent

[MrsPontyPine]

My ex and I broke up recently. He is a great Dad and I know he will continue to see our son regularly. However, what’s making me so mad is that he’s just walked out and left me to pay everything and is offering me pittance for ‘maintenance’. We have commitments that we took out together, which total more than my monthly salary.. I asked him how I am expected to live and he has no answers, other than he thinks what is offered is in line with the CSA.  I know I am not the first Mum this has happened to, but how do you get over the anger, shock and revulsion that someone could leave you so high and dry! I want to kill him! Surely any man worth his salt would want to keep a roof over their child’s head…  again I know the answer to this, but it’s such a hard pill to swallow! I want to scream at his audacity!!!

[Westernchampion]

Hi there. Vent away. A man should always provide for his young kids no matter what. It isnt just about being there.Are the commitments in sole sole names or joint? I’m sure people on here will be able to offer you advice if you want it and it’s a good place to come with people in a similar situation.

[Empty]

Well, I would double check with CMS, this will help:

<span style=”font-size: 11.0pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: ‘Calibri’,’sans-serif’; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: ‘Times New Roman’; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA;”>Child maintenance calculator: https://www.gov.uk/calculate-your-child-maintenance</span>

Meanwhile it depends what these other financial commitments are that you took out together – if they’re in both your names (such as a loan) then he is legally culpable. If not, to what else are you referring?

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