I am going through similar, have moved out although not divorced yet.
I agree with you about starting a new tradition for the tree, make it fun with you or maybe get it delivered and focus on the decorating?
xmas, I’m dreading this decision. I’m guessing we might split with one having Xmas day and one Boxing Day. Will be strange. But, it’s just a day, I’m hoping the kids will be distracted by presents and family anyway.
Hey TreacleThunder, I’ve always done it so one parent has them xmas eve and morning then drives them over to the ex for xmas dinner and Boxing Day. Next year swap. Swap also for NYE, makes it fair on both parents and the kids 🙂